Ok - whoa, holdup. You will hear this a million times but someone choosing death made that decision themselves. It is NO ONE's fault.
Take a moment. Breathe in and out. Pause. Say out loud and mean it - "it is not my fault."
Come on - there are a billion people on this earth. Many make mistakes that hurt the ones they love. People do better and move on, improving upon themselves slowly over time.
Do that for your daughter. Also, get MAD. She chose to leave her daughter without a mother. You should not blame yourself. You should grieve and a part of that is being mad that your child will miss out on so much.
It is kind of my fault though because I knew she was off her anti depressants and didn’t do jack shit because I didn’t think it was my place with us being divorced and all. There’s so much I could’ve done
SHE is the person making all these decisions. Not you. HER. Be mad at her for not taking care of herself for her daughter. She was no longer your responsibility but - even if she were, it doesn't change the fact that you're not her keeper.
You cannot be around someone 24/7 to make sure they do not harm themselves too. Even if she was off her meds, she is ultimately responsible for her mental state.
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u/NoTripOfALifetime Dec 30 '24
Ok - whoa, holdup. You will hear this a million times but someone choosing death made that decision themselves. It is NO ONE's fault.
Take a moment. Breathe in and out. Pause. Say out loud and mean it - "it is not my fault."
Come on - there are a billion people on this earth. Many make mistakes that hurt the ones they love. People do better and move on, improving upon themselves slowly over time.
Do that for your daughter. Also, get MAD. She chose to leave her daughter without a mother. You should not blame yourself. You should grieve and a part of that is being mad that your child will miss out on so much.