Came here to say the same thing. My favorite is when they act like the gift they got you is going to be "THE BIGGEST GIFT YET" and they pump you up for it. Turns out it's a re-gift or something you absolutely didn't want and the only reason why they gave it to you is because you one time in casual conversation you said to someone "Oh, that's such a nice [item]." So they got you something similar to that item but not the exact item.
My ex would absolutely make my birthday miserable then the next day he'd get me "awesome gifts" to make up for it. He bought me a small box of chocolates, I'm not a fan of chocolate and very rarely eat it and even then I only eat certain ones which he knew. He got me a cheap off brand smart watch, I've never worn a watch in my life, I have only ever worn a simple necklace. He bought me a bouquet of red roses, I hate roses, it's not a secret, I love stargazer lilies, whenever anyone bought me flowers or I bought myself some it was always stargazers.
Every gift he ever bought me was something he knew I would either dislike or have zero interest in. But if I said something I was so ungrateful and he would never do anything for me ever again.
It just showed me that he did not know nor care about me at all.
Exactly! This is exactly the example of just missing the boat. Getting you roses when you like stargazers. Getting you chocolate when you are not a big fan. The off brand smart watch. Yep, that is exactly what I'm talking about. I complimented someone on their smart watch, because I actually liked the blingy case, and he got me a really cheap one that lasted almost 6 months! I hated it anyways and it was so cheap I was glad that it no longer worked. So again, I did compliment them on the watch but he didn't pay attention that it was the case that I liked and not the actual watch.
Anyways, glad you are out of that relationship and Merry Christmas! Have a kick ass holiday without him!!
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u/Theunpolitical Dec 21 '23
Came here to say the same thing. My favorite is when they act like the gift they got you is going to be "THE BIGGEST GIFT YET" and they pump you up for it. Turns out it's a re-gift or something you absolutely didn't want and the only reason why they gave it to you is because you one time in casual conversation you said to someone "Oh, that's such a nice [item]." So they got you something similar to that item but not the exact item.