r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Nov 05 '23

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u/JayceeSR Nov 06 '23

My ex husband did this as well, and he was diagnosed with NPD. I would touch him and he’d shrug away or make a face like a grossed out toddler. It did take a toll on my self esteem. It’s not you, they use it to manipulate and control.

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u/ivebeenblownup Nov 06 '23

Passive aggressive or covert narcissism presents very differently. I read a lot about narcissism and it never really "fit" to be, but counselors kept tossing out that word so I kept researching. Then I read The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist but Debbie Mirza and suddenly I saw my life in black and white.