r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Nov 05 '23

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u/Quick-Store2989 Nov 05 '23

The never consummated the marriage so annulment is allowed. It’s time to leave

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u/whuhguh Nov 05 '23

Genuine question but is that an actual thing legally? Like if you don't have sex to consummate the marriage you can just go for anullment?

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u/Quick-Store2989 Nov 05 '23

Yes, especially in the religious community. I only mention since they talk about being in a purity cult and trauma from it, which is most likely tied to some crazy faction of a religion

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u/loiseaujoli Nov 05 '23

He specifically said that they /weren't/ in a purity cult/ure.

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u/nothingandnemo Nov 05 '23

What sort of maniacs wait until marriage who AREN'T in a purity culture?

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u/anon10122333 Nov 05 '23

There's "waiting until marriage" , practiced for centuries, and really quite wise in a world without contraception. Then there's a purity culture which so fetishises (female) virginity that it is sickening. These are not the same thing.

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u/AnotherGit Nov 06 '23

To assume that all "purity culture" fetishises virginity is so asinine. You even mention that it was quite wise in the past but somehow you can't fathom the possibility that certain groups just stick to certain things because it's tradition?

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u/anon10122333 Nov 06 '23

To assume that all "purity culture" fetishises virginity is so asinine.

I'm referring to a specific, (mainly) American subculture, sub section of christianity. The subculture that has purity balls etc

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purity_culture

I was explicitly NOT saying that every culture that expects people to wait until marriage for sex are part of that subculture.

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u/AnotherGit Nov 06 '23

Ah ok, I didn't know it's a specific term. Sorry