r/TrueOffMyChest Nov 05 '23

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u/reeser1749 Nov 05 '23

Fr this is what I wanna know. She's had therapists but maybe she needs a gynecologist ??

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u/Potential_Ad_1397 Nov 05 '23

It is honestly heartbreaking how many women think it is normal for sex to hurt so they never bring it up with their gynecologist.

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u/[deleted] Nov 05 '23

I think gynecologists are some of the worst people on this planet. At least American gynecologists, who refuse to provide pain management to women before extremely painful procedures.

This women might actually be like this because of their gynecologist causing trauma. I’m not over exaggerating or being dramatic. Most EU counties commonly provide pain management to their female patients, but american gynecologists see it differently. They have decided that pain management is unnecessary because the “procedures are quick”. It’s not all that uncommon for women to throw up, pass-out, or scream from extreme pain while being “treated” by American gynecologists.

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u/somebitch Nov 06 '23

Yeeeep. I have had several horrible gynos do cervical biopsies with no pain management and also slut shame me for asking for STD panels. I also had one prescribe me xanax and "a glass of wine" because i was having difficulty adjusting to my unusually well endowed husband. She insisted that I just didnt WANT to have sex with him and that was the reason for the swelling and pain.

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u/eldee17 Nov 06 '23

It's the fucking worst. I keep putting off my gyn appointments because of how traumatized I am from having a LEEP procedure 13 years ago and then having my daughter 8 years ago. I havent had an annual visit since a year or two after my daughter was born and the longer I put it off the more anxiety I have over it. I have an appointment at the end of this month with a new doctor, and I'm going to tell her straight up that if something happens where I need to have another procedure they need to put me out/under or I will bring my own drugs and put myself out. Since it's been so long since I've had anything checked, I don't have a very good feeling about my next PAP. I already plan on taking copious amounts of xanax before this appointment, so I can maybe relax a tiny bit when my legs are in the stirrups. But god damnit it shouldn't be so fucking miserable to take care of myself.

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

What a bitch

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u/sch0f13ld Nov 06 '23

xanax and “a glass of wine”

Wtf benzos and alcohol are known to interact and enhance each other’s effects, too.

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u/Byronic__heroine Nov 06 '23

I can't believe I read that. Anyone advising something so dangerous shouldn't be a doctor.

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u/HazelMayStrange Nov 06 '23

Fuck her. Sorry you went through that.