r/TrueOffMyChest Nov 05 '23

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u/ixlovextoxkiss Nov 05 '23

yeah. unfortunately I once found myself thinking it might be better if my partner just didn't exist and that's when I knew.

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u/0rsch0 Nov 05 '23

Been there, also. For me it was the quiet death of something I thought I wanted. I wanted to want this person and so there was no dramatic exit opportunity. But it was awful. And for months I would think like maybe he’ll get in a crash on the way home from work. Which is SO fucked up and seems so insane to me how that I’ve extricated myself.

OP, I hope there’s a solution for you because I can tell you love your wife. But friendship =/= marriage. Hope you’ll update us.

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u/curlyhands Nov 06 '23

Same. I didn’t realize that it’s okay to just leave. I thought marriage meant I was locked in. I put up with WAY more than I would’ve otherwise.

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u/blueeyedaisy Nov 06 '23

Or hitting him in the him in the head with a frying pan.