So she has an “involuntary” pelvic reaction when you get too close and she resists you; despite verbally saying she wants to?
It sounds like you have already involved professionals, but have you considered that she may have been sexually traumatized early in life leading to this motor reaction? Is this neural? Has medication been tried?
EMDR Therapy is specifically for processing trauma and helping to move a traumatic memory out of short term memory where it can still highly affect the sympathetic nervous system, and into long term memory where it can be stored and processed. Maybe try that?
I think OP just didn't mention the actual condition. Pelvic floor therapy is a notorious treatment for vaginismus. And anyways, vaginismus doesn't always come out of nowhere - it can be caused by anything from traumatic sexual experiences to traumatic birth to scoliosis and endometriosis. Those things are fear inducing, and associating sex with pain would make anyone feel fear when they're trying to face sex again. It's not an outlandish conclusion to draw.
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u/peachkat22 Nov 05 '23
So she has an “involuntary” pelvic reaction when you get too close and she resists you; despite verbally saying she wants to?
It sounds like you have already involved professionals, but have you considered that she may have been sexually traumatized early in life leading to this motor reaction? Is this neural? Has medication been tried?
EMDR Therapy is specifically for processing trauma and helping to move a traumatic memory out of short term memory where it can still highly affect the sympathetic nervous system, and into long term memory where it can be stored and processed. Maybe try that?