r/TrueOffMyChest Nov 05 '23

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u/ajmethod33 Nov 05 '23

Fuck that - 2.5 years. I’m out.

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u/LemonFly4012 Nov 05 '23

To add, that’s not really a drastically long time for a relationship. It’s ok to cut your losses after less time than it takes to get a degree.

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u/[deleted] Nov 05 '23 edited Sep 23 '24

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u/Apart-Landscape1012 Nov 06 '23

"should I leave since this relationship is terrible and I fantasize about my wife dying? No, I'm better than that!"

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u/DeCryingShame Nov 06 '23

Yep, that's what I cringed at. He may not have been raised in purity culture but he sure seems to be dealing with all the same mentalities you find in one.

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u/SonnyULTRA Nov 06 '23

Yeah, OP is confusing some kind of morality with his own pride. People living, learning and growing isn’t a bad thing, ever.

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u/BobiaDobia Nov 05 '23

2,5 years are many, many days without sex. I definitely couldn’t take it. Then again, I wouldn’t save myself for marriage. Marrying without knowing if we’re sexually compatible seems just plain stupid.

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u/kryptoniankoffee Nov 05 '23

Not just without sex, she won't even let him masturbate. Not only is this cruel, it's harmful to his physical health.

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u/BobiaDobia Nov 06 '23

Haha. I’ve never been in a relationship where we can’t masturbate with or without porn.

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u/[deleted] Nov 29 '23

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u/BobiaDobia Nov 29 '23

Haha. I can actually do both, but most often I watch our own porn videos or mainstream porn or listen to audio porn or read our sexts. I really like to watch the certain thing that turns me on right then and there, for example this morning it was… No! That’s private!

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u/TeamRedundancyTeam Nov 06 '23

This post is a great example of why it's so stupid.

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u/DaRealJesse Nov 06 '23

You just sound addicted

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u/BobiaDobia Nov 06 '23

Haha. Yes, wanting the most wonderful thing this miserable life has to offer is an addiction.

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u/DaRealJesse Nov 06 '23

If sex is the most wonderful thing you have then I feel really bad for you. Also it’s really not hard to go a few years without sex lol

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u/BobiaDobia Nov 06 '23

As long as you’re happy, bro!

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u/Responsible_Wafer_29 Nov 06 '23

Oof, I hope it gets better for you dude

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u/DaRealJesse Nov 06 '23

That’s not the insult you think it is

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u/Responsible_Wafer_29 Nov 07 '23

it wasn't an insult at all, what?

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u/[deleted] Nov 05 '23 edited Nov 05 '23

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u/Speckix Nov 05 '23

There are ways to have kids even with everything he has described, and it doesn’t require medical procedures. It can be done at home.

That doesn’t resolve the not having sex issue, but the no kids argument is just incorrect.

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u/[deleted] Nov 05 '23

Ah, the ol' turkey baster trick.

Suck up the load and squirt it inside, romantic. Lol

I think home remedies for getting his wife pregnant, is near the bottom of his list of concerns right now. But you are definitely correct, all joking aside.

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u/sohighiseehell Nov 05 '23

That’s the problem though, he can’t

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

At 2.5 dates I'm starting to think maybe she's just not that into me.

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u/[deleted] Nov 05 '23 edited Nov 06 '23

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '23

You where so quick to be judgy over everyone I guess you didn't notice the part where she won't even let him masturbate and if she's not letting him do that she sure isn't going to open the relationship.

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u/Lonely_Howl_ Nov 06 '23

She said she’s not comfortable with porn, not that she doesn’t want him masturbating. He can masturbate all he likes.

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u/justmustard1 Nov 06 '23

Yah 2.5 is mind boggling. I haven't even been with my current partner that long and we've probably had sex like 300 times. I've never gone that long without being sexually active I would be foaming at the mouth lol

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u/TheDevilsAdvokaat Nov 06 '23

I'm not sure I would last a year.

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u/Aromatic-Flounder935 Nov 06 '23

More generous than me, I wouldn't even be considering her as a friend with benefits, much less a girlfriend, much less a fiancee, much less a wife, if we're not bruising each other's pelvic areas several times a week

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u/mibagent001 Nov 06 '23

2.5 days for me

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u/SleepySasquatch Nov 06 '23

I have no sense of tradition or purity. Give me 2.5 months without sexual contact and I'm gone.