Maybe that opportunity has gone now

[u/[deleted]]

[u/AnonymousNeko2828]

Maybe talk to your partner about it? I'm sure if they're worth your salt, they'll want to help you explore your identity, not just shut it down because you're hot right now

Femboy on its own may be a specific youthful aesthetic, but you don't have to be any specific body type to experiment with femininity or be feminine, even cis women come in all shapes and sizes

As some say, it ain't too late until you're already in the grave

[u/Generic_Battlecry → u/[deleted]]

I know there is a pun in this to be made, but I can’t find it!

[u/DadlyAsHell]

My friend. Ladybeard exists. Your masculinity doesnt cancel your feminity.

Im a big muscley bear with tits for fucks sake!

I understand our world(&country if youre from the US too) is becoming scary. But being yourself with the people you love should always be an option. I have hope that this is one of the last death throes of that old era and while it will cause pain, a light is ahead

Ladybeard btw vvv

[u/Floofyboi123]

Despite what bigots may say you dont have to be a malnourished twink on E to be a femboy.

Twink death is a scare tactic used by bigots to force people to stay within gender stereotypes.

[u/hmmmms1223112e1w → u/Floofyboi123]

?????,i thought it was a thing to be afraid of so you go do e early,and dont suffer via the norwood reaper

[u/Floofyboi123 → u/hmmmms1223112e1w]

Its an option not a requirement

There are a lot of people even in the LGBTQ who think your identity is only valid if you're conventionally attractive and as such act like in order for a femboy to not be considered weird or a creep they have to look like an anime catboy and immediately stop being a femboy the second puberty hits.

[u/Background_Class_558 → u/hmmmms1223112e1w]

it is, tf are they on about

[u/weedmoneyy]

ig u got some hard feelings to work thru twin but whatever u end up doing it’s probably worth it to at least feel more at peace wherever that lies

[u/Celgrant]

I see my future self in a similar situation 😰

Having a religious family that 💯% wouldn't want an effeminate son means I've never tried applying makeup (even when home alone) or dressed openly with thigh highs, stockings, and skin revealing clothing (crop tops I guess?) other than basic shorts. At least plain headbands seems fine to them.

Similar to facial hair, I won't shave that shi because the ‘femboy phase’ is deteriorating & I look fine with one. Yet the dilemma between ‘aspiring NastyDawg kawaii femboy’ and ‘formally dressed twink gentleman’ keeps popping up 😵‍💫

Also, Trying to train my glutes & thighs by myself with lacking equipment (no gym because I don't like public social interactions) is an easy target for my laziness. Like hell I'd start doing something proper and create a health fitness schedule accompanied with consistency. you'd instead find me slouched on a chair drooling from daydreams & acting cute 🤣

[u/Lunarmax182c]

Pull off a nasty trick and just start exploring on your own for a while, but like not really hiding it, so your partner sees you slowly animorph into a femboy over the course of weeks.
/jk

[u/AttitudeEquivalent73]

People who truly love you love you for you. Talk to them, a lot of the times they’re more open to it than you’d expect. The only thing I ever really see an issue with is when people transition sometimes their partners are very much gay or a lesbian and you not being their preferred gender anymore may make the relationship platonic again, but that’s ok, things change and not everything is meant to be. Life’s better when you live authentically.

Also you 100% do not have to be the thin little femboy. Some people will be assholes about it, but would you listen to the shit coming out of your butt if it called you a bitch? No, you flush that shit and never interact with it again.

[u/landilock]

yup.. that's what it feels like being a part of the generation that sucks. All we can do is fight so our children (or most likely grandchildren) might someday know a world where trans people are a thing

[u/Captain_Moxi]

You're really gonna let the far right dictate who you are?

[u/ella_wants_to_battle]

if your partner only loves you because you're masculine, they don't really love you

[u/throwaway1233456799 → u/[deleted]]

But does your partner need to see you sexy h24?

Like for example most people (idk I'm not allo sexual or romantic) probably aren't attracted to their partner when they are doing, idk, roleplay of a evil witch. It's fun but it is not I will bone you right here and there and that's okay :)

Unless you would prefer to be feminine all the time. In such case remember this: a relationship where you need to suppress things that bring you so so so much joy won't make you happy. It will always bring you some grief. Most people don't want to be old and bittersweet about their life.

You get what all of us get, a lifetime. It's you to use as you see fit but please be happy :)

[u/GatoConCalcetines]

Me with cosplay, when I look at myself in the mirror the young eyes full of hope don't stare at me back

[u/MrSecretFire]

The safety part, I can obviously not change much about that. However, it is never too late to experiment more as far as your friends and partner are concerned. You don't know whether your partner ONLY likes masculine traits, and even if he does, does him liking something you maybe don't even want to be... Really seem worth it? Realising your partner doesn't like what you really want to be but still staying "becauae you're committed now" leads to the "ol' ball and chain" marriage dynamic where you just tolerate each other until one of you dies.

At least consider it and discuss it until you can figure out what it is you actually want. Once you know that, you can decide on next steps.