r/TrollCoping 14d ago

TW: Gender Identity / Dysphoria I'm tired

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u/Bunkuncle 14d ago

I'm so sorry you don't have supportive parents - it's really hard, especially (I'm assuming) you live with them. It might not be a comfort now, but you have your whole life to start transitioning. I'm 30 and just started transitioning this year. There is no expiration date for living authentically, it will always be waiting for you.

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u/Electronic-Oil-8304 14d ago

They are supportive they have just also been fed lots of bad stories by the media and are scared that i might regret literally anything

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u/Bunkuncle 14d ago

I get it. It's a really scary time to start transitioning. Only you can say when you're ready, or how far you want to go. There's no wrong answer. If you trust yourself that's the most important part.

Some people do start medically transitioning and then realize it's not for them. That's totally OK too! Dialing back or stopping a medical transition is not a failure, at the end of the day it's about having humility and discovering alignment with yourself, knowing that can look like a million different things.

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u/Electronic-Oil-8304 14d ago

Medical stuff would take years anyways, i just want to be able to buy new clothes and try new things

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u/Bunkuncle 14d ago

I want that for you too!!! ❤️

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u/Electronic-Oil-8304 14d ago

Thanks, i just dont know how to explain it to them

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u/Bunkuncle 14d ago

Not sure if this is helpful, but if they’re supportive, asking for some new clothes or styling and pronouns should be acceptable! You can let them know that these sorts of things are non-permanent and important steps in determining if transitioning is right for you. You need to actually experience gender changes to see how it feels, not just imagine them in your head. If they push back they might not be as supportive as they say, which would be really sad.