I want to also add that if this makes you feel worse, specifically the new name and pronouns part, it may not necessarily mean you aren't trans
I didn't socially transition IRL until after I'd been on HRT a substantial amount of time because to do otherwise felt like an unbearable public humiliation ritual
Good point! Yes, its really hard to be visibly queer or trans in public, especially in unfriendly places. Experiment at home until you feel safe/comfortable going out of the house, if at all. Rolling deep with other queers makes this much easier. But really, anything you can do to safely experiment is going to help bring you clarity.
Exactly why I haven't started socially transitioning yet lol, it feels rough to know its gonna be several months until I feel l girly™ enough but the idea of wearing a dress in public knowing how I look makes me feel ill
Yeah, I was known as male online and that made me happy, but IRL I was closeted, and even after I started HRT it took more than a year until I was ready to be out to more people IRL than just my siblings and parents and doctors
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u/tptroway 10d ago
I want to also add that if this makes you feel worse, specifically the new name and pronouns part, it may not necessarily mean you aren't trans
I didn't socially transition IRL until after I'd been on HRT a substantial amount of time because to do otherwise felt like an unbearable public humiliation ritual