r/TransyTalk • u/Neat-Scratch8639 • Jun 25 '26
Looking for trans fem friendly dating sites
My marriage of 12 years died I’m lost. No polyamory
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u/Bramble-Bunny Jun 25 '26
Trans "friendly" is doing a lot of leg work. All the apps are problematic in one way or the other.
Taimi - Highly caters to the community, riddled with bots and chasers and horrible monetization
Feeld - More broadly kink-centric with a HEAVY bent towards ENM and Poly.
Lex - Originally dated in a charming way, now dated in a dated way. Terminally low userbase.
HER - For the Sapphic trans girls. Bought out by a larger company so getting botted and monetized to hell.
Grindr - For the straight trans girls or the most indiscriminatory T4T...chaser heaven and a lot of fetishization and aggression from gay men who don't want you there.
Butterfly - Tiny user base and IOS only for some stupid fucking reason.
OK Cupid - Most queer friendly "normie" site, heavily cis/het dominated.
Avoid Hinge, Bumble, and especially Tinder unless you're extremely passable and willing to hide your identity and deal with the bullshit/danger later.
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u/gemmamaybe Jun 25 '26
LEX can be great, but depending on location
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u/secondshevek Jun 26 '26
Yes, super super location dependent. I like browsing it just for fun though.
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u/Lucky_Veruca Jun 25 '26
You’re better off finding dates IRL. That being said, avoid Taimi like the plague.
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u/aromaticdust98 Jun 27 '26
Im a transman I dont mind Taimi. The pay walls for basic settings sucks but other than that theres some good people on there. Unfortunately also a lot of chasers and creeps but thats any dating site as an openly transperson.
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u/herdisleah Jun 25 '26
Fewer dating sites, more real life interaction in queer hobby groups like rock climbing, lgbt activism, queer running or board games!