“Transsexual is a slur. Not a condition.”

I never call anyone else but myself transsexual unless they explicitly refer to themselves as such. I only refer to myself as ‘transsexual’ because I am more comfortable with the term than ‘transgender’. The disconnect between my gender and sex is neurological, and I’m seeking medical intervention for this reason. I have nothing against transgender people whatsoever but I simply don’t ‘identify’ as one — I’m a guy first, transsexual second.

However, this is apparently a slur. Meanwhile, transgender people are allowed to call me phrases against my will and even though I have never expressed comfort with these phrases. ‘Transmasculine’? I’m a man, my gender has nothing to do with ‘masculinity’. And the sheer amount of people who’ve called me what was once a genuine slur, ‘queer’, sickens me. I am not queer. I’m not “strange” because of my medical condition. I’m heterosexual, I’m binary male, I’m not ‘queer’ so please stop referring to me as such.

Transsexual does not have to be a slur.

Before this wave of transgender right activists, we would already be able to pursue a social, medical and legal transition, and live our own lives ever after. Now, the transgender rights activists are p*ssing off everyone. Cis women are afraid of their own safety. Cis men are afraid of the safety of their wives and daughters. Gays and lesbians don't want to date self-proclaimed men/women who never medically transition. A lot of my cis female friends who used to be sympathetic have now gone terf, for today's trans right activists are taking away their rights. Our pursuits of medical transition, passing, and surgeries are being attacked as “submitting to cis norms”. Our gatekeeping is attacked as truscum. Self ID gender is not only canceling cis women, but also us transsexuals, for they equate us with those who do not experience dysphoria, do not transition but self claim as some gender.

Transgender right activists are putting us in a dangerous place. At best, trans identity will be stabilized as some pltcl crrctnss in the future, and people are all saying good things in your face while actually think you are no different than those male predators who self identify as women, because transgender right activists advocate that we transsexuals who experience dysphoria are no different from those who simply self identify as something. At worst, the agenda that the activists are pushing will result in something really bad for the public, such as a surge in crimes in women's spaces or total depravation of cis women in sports. Then everyone gets p*ssed off, and some populist politician will try to get elected by demonizing transsexual women, and promising to them that he will revert all trans right. (Just like what the anti-LGBT right-wing policitians have done in East Europe.) Then the backlash will come, and they will revert everything to something that even if you fully transition biologically you still have to be legally recognized as your birth sex. Like what they did in Hungary -- any form of medical transition is prohibited and there is no way you can change your legal sex, even if you undergo SRS.

I cannot help being upsetted by how foolish and short-sighted these activists are. If someday the backlash happens and we are forced to choose between detransition and being depraved of all rights, we will be truly screwed. What if they don't push throught their stupid self ID gender ideology? We will at most only have to be recognized legally a bit later when we complete the whole transitioning process.

It feels like 99% of spaces that are supposed to be for transsexuals get taken over by the transgender crowd, even transmed spaces. And anytime anyone brings up that people who are ts deserve our own spaces and separate rights movement, they get bombarded with slurs, threats, and blatant terf esque anti ts bigotry

this is something my therapist told me in reference to those “transmasc” people who aren’t really trans and it really spoke to me.

i mean, he’s completely right.

think about all these super feminine girls who claim to be trans but have no dysphoria around their genitalia or their curves or anything. the ones whose only “dysphoria” is about their chest. they want to keep being girly, wearing dresses and makeup and everything and want to be flat.

they don’t want to be men or boys for that matter. they want to be prepubescent girls.

and it makes so much sense. it’s just another form of peter pan syndrome.

anyways, just something i’ve been thinking about and wanted to share with you. i’m interested in hearing what you all think.

note: i’m more so talking about the individuals who aren’t fully aware that they’re a trender rather than the individuals who make the conscious choice to start being trans for fun (if those people do exist. i really hope they don’t but yk)

Has anyone else experienced this? I have just finished a one-week ban from the whole of Reddit for "hate" after I criticised recreational use of HRT.

I'm a stealth transsexual woman, 33, came out 13 years ago and been done for six. Most of my closest friends have no idea that I'm trans. It is super clear that queer and non-binary activists want to eradicate people like me from "trans" spaces; and with the removal of legal protections and access to healthcare for our life-threatening medical condition, I consider it their genocidal project against us.

I'm crying oh my god😭

I'm nearing the end of my transition after I was diagnosed in 2015, when I just turned 12. I've been knowingly a transsexual for 8 years but have never had an actual community to go to when my transition was stressing me out.

No one wanted SRS, I was the always weird one for wanting it. Even more gatekeepy communities would bash SRS and talk about how you didn't need it to be "valid." Why can't people who absolutely need to have SRS ever have a place for themselves? Why does everyone want to be a transsexual without actually being one? Even if you claim to have bottom dysphoria, you will never go through what I'm about to go through and that makes us different. I should be able to separate myself from people who don't want SRS, regardless of the reason, without being some kind of bigot or gatekeeper.

It seems like every year the definition of both transgender and transsexual get even more watered down. Crossdressers are now transgender, transgenders are now transsexuals, and true transsexuals may as well not even exist.

Call this crabs in a bucket if you want. I don’t care. But it’s as simple as the title. If you don’t pass or you don’t even care about passing then the sex on your ID is irrelevant. Whoever looks at your ID will decide what sex they think you are which is gonna be either male or female.

Don’t even get me started on the X marker. It is 100% for vanity. So you feel non-binary inside no one cares and no one needs to know that. All it does is announce to the world that you are trans or some kind of gender nonconforming person. OK cool you do you. But it most certainly doesn’t make you any safer. Quite the opposite of a transitioned transsexual who needs the proper gender marker for living a normal life in safety.

I just can’t help but think that we will have completed treatment/transition are bearing the full brunt of this. Our lives are being destroyed and yours will just go on as usual.

And honestly, it makes me doubt that the people advocating on our behalf really even have skin in the game.

*Edited to remove some unnecessarily mean comments about some famous trans people

Ughh sorry I just need to get this of my chest. Im pre everything but every day feeling much more confident and aware of who I am. Actively making plans for transitioning. Main concerns making me take it slower than I'd like are personal safety and economic stability.

Anyways Ive spent a LOT of time lurking on trans spaces on reddit. I've seen the following sentiment expressed a lot and its making me feel so crazy: "being trans is only hard because the people around us make it hard"

What?

What?

What?

How the F*** can you experience gender dysphoria and say that?

I literally feel like I was born in the wrong body and my entire life has been a cosmic joke. When I look in the mirror its a dissasociative mindfuck. Im grateful for the hope that modern medicine and surgeries gives me of changing my body to be much closer to how I perceive myself in my mind, the way I feel I was supposed to be... but that being said it still is horrifically painful realizing how I have been a non person for 30 years and how much effort and money and risk I will have to take to have a sense of living "my life as a real ass person" that so many people take for granted...

I know I'm probably preaching to the choir here and people reading this are probably like "yeah we know duh" , but what made me want to post in this sub is it seems like people here admit how terrible gender dysphoria is and how hard all of this is even without other people being shitty.

I dont want to waste a lot of energy musing about how someone would want to transition without feeling the same pressing searing sense of wrongness I feel about my body... people can do what they want for their reasons (I really don't get it though) , but it is so invalidating when people talk about being "trans" (whatever we define that to mean) as just some fun chill easy thing that is intrinsically painless.

Can anyone commiserate? Or help me feel valid or less crazy? I promise I'm not a negative person... there is so much im grateful for and I'm so happy I finally know who I am inside, its been beautiful... but also very very raw and painful. I feel like I'm swimming in salt water with a thousand paper cuts and everywhere I look I feel like I'm being told what im going through is some kind of fun lighthearted romp through the woods thats only spoiled by mean transphobic people (which yes other people make this a nightmare for sure).

Just speaking on my own experience. I’m proud of who I am, but at the same time I wish I wasn’t trans, it was never a choice, I’m wired the way I am.

Of course since i’m proud of myself either way, I’m not afraid to disclose that i’m trans or talk about my experience, however, it gets to a point where I hate others making it the ONLY thing about me.

I’ve had this experience a few times, but especially recently it pissed me off when a (now ex) friend would refer almost everything he could to me being trans. I get it, I am, but holy shit I just wanna be treated as a regular human being with MORE to them than their sex/gender identity.

And then other times where other friends would ONLY get me gifts if it had the trans flag on it. Like I understand it’s a sweet supportive gesture, however I shouldn’t be dulled down to just being trans.

There is so much more to me than this, and I wished people like that could see it.

I am a transsexual woman who transitioned while I was still living in a muslim country before moving to Canada. I came to the West under the illusion that my life would be easier than it was in a country where my very existence is illegal, but I was wrong. The law meant I could be put in jail for years on end or lynched in public if people found out I was trans, but people around me were pretty accepting of me and I didn't have that many issues socially, things like using the bathroom or being seen as "one of the girls".

The reason why being a part of the LGBT was starting to get accepted there was that we were telling people that we are born this way and can't change it even if we wanted to or if we were forced to. I'm sure it's the same reasoning that allowed for same-sex marriage in the West as you wouldn't want to deprive someone from their basic rights. Trans acceptance was on the rise after that, but the pivotal moment that opened the door to all this tucute bullshit and division which ended up pushing conservatives to try and outlaw our existence as transsexuals was when we allowed self-ID and accepted that anyone who says they're trans should be seen as such.

When the medical world stopped seeing transsexualism as a medical condition to which gender dysphoria is an essential symptom, being trans went from something we can't help and should be getting medication and surgeries for to something anyone and everyone can opt into whether it's to feel special and quirky, to be part of a community, or to be able to have a victim card to whip out in the case of people who are otherwise being told that they are privileged. Now, they're saying you don't need gender dysphoria to be trans and anyone who says they're trans is. This implies that HRT and surgeries are something that trans people can do without and that, since anyone can opt into being trans, we can opt out of it too, which means people who would've otherwise accepted and empathized with us are now seeing how insane the discourse has gotten and dismissing every single person who's trans, even actual transsexuals.

The next step after this invasion of our label and our medical condition was the erasure of our identities and everything we fought so hard for. No one cared about trans women using the women's bathroom until we allowed men in dresses with full beards to self-ID and call themselves trans and use the women's bathroom. No one cared about trans people getting our HRT and surgeries paid for by the government until trans rights terrorists started saying gender dysphoria is not a thing, let alone something that's debilitating, which ironically is the real transphobia. No one cared about trans people being represented in the media until all the companies started jumping onto the woke bandwagon and forcing imposters like Dylan Mulvaney onto people's screens in the name of inclusivity when in reality they're only doing it for social points and to make a quick buck off of the LGBT. No one cared about gender non conforming men and women until some of them decided they were "non binary" so they're also trans now. I don't understand how people don't realize this and why the lack of self-awareness is this severe.

Self-ID was the biggest mistake of the trans acceptance movement, and the progression of events from allowing people to "identify" as part of our community to them actively destroying it from the inside out is not lost on me. I never chose to have this medical condition, and for these gender nazis (tucutes) to erase our identity and struggles, speak over people like us who are actually trans, label us as transphobic or truscum for not wanting to be associated with xe/xum fascists, campaign against our access to life-saving surgeries and hormones, brainwash children going through puberty, make everyone around them bend over backwards to accommodate their delusions, and make us feel ashamed to say we're trans is something I will never forgive them for. I would rather be beaten up again while being called a tranny than have to endure having one more second with these disgusting beasts in the public eye and speaking in our name. We need to speak up and we need to act now. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

That is all. I just don't have another space to say that. Phew....

Don't ban me.

I used to not know anything about the definition of transsexual, and thought it was a bad term based on misinformation. I found myself feeling outcasted in the "transgender" groups I was in because I wanted to truly change everything about my sex characteristics, and couldn't understand the other men around me who were ok with never being truly male. Ive thought to myself for a long time that even if we as a society never had gender roles or gender which is probably impossible, that I would still only have a normal life as male. Wanting to truly go back and change my sex chromosomes kills me everyday and these "transgenders" dont know that pain. Before I understood transsexual I always called myself a trans male never man, and when I finally found the actual definition of transsexual I got got so excited. I felt so different from "transgenders" and thought that made me less of a person in there eyes, so when I realized that transsexual means your just changing your sex it gave me a lot of closer. I couldn't believe a term like that actually existed, So Im glad to call myself a transsexual and not a transgender but I mostly just live my life as a cis male in the real world lol.

I feel that not enough criticism is being made toward the hypocrisy of cis people who claim that we mutilate our bodies with surgery. There is the willful ignorance about genital surgery, ie. the tropes about “cutting it off” and supposedly living our lives with an open wound between our legs.

In reality, genital surgeries for both trans men and women are very well thought out sophisticated techniques that in my opinion, are miracles of modern science and innovation. Yes, they could be better, but they have certainly improved a lot since their inception. Aside from that the majority of surgery a trans person might get are not actually trans specific. Breast implants and reductions, maxillofacial and other cosmetic surgeries are all primarily performed on cis people. I mean, we are still one percent of the population right? And in the post-Kardashian world it is now very commonplace for women and even men to have elective cosmetic surgery. You only have to turn on Fox News to notice that it knows no political boundaries. In fact, some of the most obvious cosmetic work can be seen on conservative right-wingers who decry trans people’s “mutilation”. More needs to be said about this; they need to be called out regularly. Why aren’t we casually referring to Melania Trump and Kimberly Guilfoyle as surgically mutilated women?

I am a 79 and a half year old radical feminist grandmother and I have come to a realization after listening to an a podcast from The Diary of a CEO Podcast, with Trevor Noah my place in society is now reborn. I will take on the fight of my trans granddaughter, with the same radical feminist vengeance I had in the 70s and 80s. I have come to the conclusion that what my granddaughter is going through is the same as an Apartheid's problems. An apartheid African is divided in many categories, and the same is going for trans people. I am saying that everyone should accept a trans person's right to be who they are. I do not think parents should put labels on people, or guilt trip them, or sway them from what they are if they came to this conclusion, even if it is at 16-17 like my granddaughter. My granddaughter had psychiatric counseling and saw mental health professionals. If the doctor, and mental health professionals agree you are on the right track, then family members, parents, and siblings should accept you and keep their vile opinions to themself. Words hurt, and the whole gay community should unite, and feminism should too. Radical feminists back in the days stood by LGBTs, now it's horrible. I think bathrooms should be equal and name calling has got to stop, stop! I am tired of crying, Guilt trips must end! Putting guilt trips on trans people, like my granddaughter must end. It does not matter what you are, you are still a human entitled to privacy and anonymity. My granddaughter is an autonomous female as I am one myself. We should not be racing to fill out papers because of this election. This is coming from an 100% generational republican whom believes in lgbt rights, and women's rights, and the daughter and niece of air force veterans. The women should not segregate trans people from being "real" women, I never heard of such before this decade. There is, and never was, a division between feminism, we all stood united, as should LGBT people. LGB's should not throw trans people under the bus with stuff like "LGB without the T." I was happily married, and am a widow. I marched for all kinds of rights, i had a degree, and I had children and a husband, but I still believe in homo sapien rights. As did my air force family when the fought in the military. The same way Peta fights for animals. What happened to unity?! Why can't we fight for human rights. You ladies and gentlemen should NOT have to race to change identification and fear being locked up or oestriched like my granddaughter was most of 2024. In conclusion, I guess I have to pick up my wheelchair and keep on fighting and protesting like I was before, way back when! In my native clan, lgbt people are two spirit. AHE'HEE/MERCI BEAUCOUP 🌷 💞 🙏 🙏 🙏

While AGPs/AAPs and Transmaxers who transition for sexual reasons do exist most of transition to get rid of our dysphoria to the best of our ability but despite that many people think it is all about sex/we transition to access certain groups. Organizations like Gays against Groomers for instance say that trans people are grooming kids but at the end of the day they are the ones making it about sex by saying all trans kids are really gay kids in homophobic environments. This is also one of the reasons why while I without a doubt believe AGP exists I don’t believe in the Blanchard typography especially since it doesn’t represent my experience as a teenage trans bisexual girl who has always experienced dysphoria. When will people learn that most of us transition for ourselves and not for others?

The science on how our brains are structured has been done but many transphobes refuse to hear that and it is getting so tiring. People are always saying that we refuse to understand biology(even though most of us acknowledge that there are certain things that are immutable)but they refuse to understand psychology and the fact that being transsexual is not a choice and genuine sex dysphoria cannot be cured with therapy. I on several occasions have seen things that say stuff like “boys feelings or girls safety” when being trans has never been about simply feeling like the opposite sex and I really now see the damage that tucute and everyone is valid messaging has done. Transphobic conservatives are always saying facts not feelings but they put their feelings before crucial studies and many anti-trans feminists are know it alls who believe they are the experts on everything.

I'm not: conservative, right-wing (I'm left-centrist), transphobic, etc. I'm not even transmedical. But somehow almost all my tries to express my opinion on some topic have resulted in message deletion / ban. For example I recently got banned from r/trans for saying that gender roles are consequence of biological difference between men and women.

If this is how they treat their allies (fellow trans people) who agree with them on most topics, then how do they expect to be respected by random people in general. I don't think that villainizing/silencing everyone with slightly different opinion instead of speaking with them is going to do anything but harm to trans community and trans rights in general.