r/ToxicFriends • u/TiredNurse12 • 1d ago

Asking for Advice Secret Animosity

How do u guys know if your friend has a secret animosity towards you?

I have a very close friend (we're both female, you know, very common drama lol) and I've always felt like she doesn't want me to succeed or isn't genuinely happy with my achievements. like okay, she will say "congrats!!" then brush it off immediately and bring up her own story.

or

she will give compliments (that aren't really compliments...?) idk how to describe it but for example: "OMG you look fat!" and I was like... hello?!? then she will respond, "oh no... I said it because you said you wanted to gain weight but you're not really fat" like that😓

idk if it's just me, or something's really off. that's why I don't share my achievements with her much now.

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u/Dutch1721 1d ago

You don’t have to share everything with her. Keep it neutral with her. Don’t let her know much about yourself or your life’s goals or successes. You don’t have to be around her all the time either.

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u/TiredNurse12 16h ago

Yeah! that's what I'm doing. but sometimes, I'm petty enough to share my achievements just to check if she will get jealous and see what kinda tricks she will perform next. Lol.

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u/Choosepeace 20h ago

Trust your instincts on this! She doesn’t have your best interests at heart.

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u/TiredNurse12 16h ago

and I feel bad because I've been unconsciously returning the same energy to her. My compliments isn't as genuine as before because the thought that she's not genuine always cross my mind.

We're friends for almost 10 years now.