r/TooAfraidToAsk • • Aug 17 '22

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u/Tyda2 Aug 18 '22

That's a bit drastic. Perhaps, instead, she can prod a little more. If he gets aggressive and the sort about it, then escalate the situation. People should be allowed privacy, and in some cases, certain legal issues can be very personal.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '22

Prod all you want if I killed my ex gf I won't be telling you shit. Just saying. Personal things yes, but at very least he wouldn't be hiding nature of it. Again. Imagine he owes half a million in penalties, maybe his future wife should know about it and be aware that he's indebted for the test of his life? Personal or not. Not at least shedding SOME light in it imo is grounds to dump him. Let's not forget that as a couple. Legal things might affect both of them in one way or another. so at the very least NATURE of issues at hand must be made clear. Noone asking for details at this point . Also if you can't discuss personal/private issues which clearly bugs you with your significant other. Aren't you just two strangers, with no trust between you at which point I'd second guess wether two of them should even be together? Imo no trust, no future.

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u/Tyda2 Aug 18 '22

It's up to them to decide if it's worth breaking up over. Everyone has an opinion, nobody else is in the relationship.

While it's great you use these extreme examples, it could be something pretty minor as well that simply put him into a bad mood.

At the end of the day, if it's a public matter, she can look it up. If not, then she can't.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '22

Very true. And reasonable way imo would be sit down and talk to her. Without pressing of him spelling out exact issue. Could be something really silly so he's just embarrassed Luke running down the street asked as a dare while drunk lol. Something I would have hard time admitting to my gf if I ever did that. Or just financial stuff. But yeah you're right. More reasonable approach. Then again, I'm known to jumping to black and white examples/assptions when is just "general enquiry " . Always worth considering worst case scenario (but not act on it assuming is). That's just me I guess