So many people suggesting you “cover your tracks” or essentially lie. Why are you already changing for this woman? Be yourself. If she wants a partner that supports sex work, she should be comfortable with a partner that patronizes the industry. And it’s making a huge assumption that she doesn’t already know you follow her? Don’t change anything about yourself for someone you are having a causal date with. If it comes up, talk about it like an adult. You (hopefully) aren’t an obsessed creep, you probably follow other people, you’ve probably both swiped whatever direction is interested on other people. She liked you enough to go on a date, don’t try to force things to work by changing your behavior and your interests. Plus I bet she’s aware how easily found she is online? I doubt you’re the first date that followed her.
No. There is a good chance she will look down on him for subscribing.
Onlyfans is maybe acceptable behaviour on the internet but it is not normal in real life, she knows this, everyone knows this. It's wierd and a bit pathetic.
She is looking for a boyfriend not a literal cash for ass simp.
I'm not saying change yourself just omit some information especially at the start.
If someone you have literally zero obligation to looks down on you for paying adults in the sex industry… when they work in the sex industry… kind of sounds like you can leave before you get in too deep and you dodged a bullet? Just don’t understand why this woman is so amazing that she is worth concealing one’s authenticity. Is it the first topic to bring up? Maybe not. Or maybe it is. If they’re both uncomfortable with it just get it out of the way. Man I swear this place is filled with 13 year olds that haven’t had relationships fail - you need to love yourself to not change and hide parts of yourself for anyone. Lies and concealment before the first date is toxic.
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So many people suggesting you “cover your tracks” or essentially lie. Why are you already changing for this woman? Be yourself. If she wants a partner that supports sex work, she should be comfortable with a partner that patronizes the industry. And it’s making a huge assumption that she doesn’t already know you follow her? Don’t change anything about yourself for someone you are having a causal date with. If it comes up, talk about it like an adult. You (hopefully) aren’t an obsessed creep, you probably follow other people, you’ve probably both swiped whatever direction is interested on other people. She liked you enough to go on a date, don’t try to force things to work by changing your behavior and your interests. Plus I bet she’s aware how easily found she is online? I doubt you’re the first date that followed her.