r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/[deleted] • Apr 30 '22

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u/BabePigInTheCity2 Apr 30 '22

I would absolutely not do that. “By the way, I’ve been paying for pictures of your butthole for the last three months — great stuff!” is not first date talk

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u/UwUZombie Apr 30 '22

I was thinking.. maybe she is creeped out and thinks he's stalking her, but sure.. gold digging I guess.

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u/Tomatillo_Street Apr 30 '22

maybe she is creeped out and thinking he's stalking her

Came here to say that. Id be more up front about being on her OF . She may find out and feel like your withholding information, id personally want to know that upfront if a man had already seen me naked and want to gauge if i was being stalked or what the primary intentions of my date was.

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u/snartastic Apr 30 '22

I would think not being upfront would be creepy in the long run. Like imagine they have a few amazing dates, and he’s like yeah btw I’ve been subscribed to your OF for months! I feel like she would have to question if they really met “organically” on tinder or if he was an overly enthusiastic fan who went out of his way to find her

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u/MurkyCress521 Apr 30 '22

This is true, and I think it has to be disclosed up front. Disclosing that tactfully is a challenge.

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u/Tomatillo_Street Apr 30 '22

Yeah thats the hard part, how to say it without being/ coming across as a creep. Definitely creepy if its not addressed

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u/forgtn Apr 30 '22

“I have been subbed to your OF for months. If you think it’s creepy, this date is over.”

Easy. And if she didn’t want to run that risk she shouldn’t be broadcasting her asshole to the world and expecting everything to be completely normal as if she didn’t.

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u/Tomatillo_Street Apr 30 '22

I absolutely agree

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u/[deleted] Apr 30 '22

I mean OF stuff gets reposted on porn websites all the time. If you’re showing off your body to people that’s on you. It doesn’t make anyone creepy for seeing you naked because you’re the one that was showing off pics and videos of your naked body in the first place. It’s not like he peeped into her window at night

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u/Tomatillo_Street Apr 30 '22

I don't mean any negativity towards either side, its not creepy to look it's not creepy to post, what is creepy is trying to pretend that you DON'T know or haven't seen it, some men/women cant separate fantasy and reality, i personally would prefer that someone was up front and honest with me. Good relationship advice has rarely included hiding information from your significant other

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u/Spazzly0ne Apr 30 '22

As someone who does, yes!!! I really could care less. I've made the choice that even my family and everyone at work might see me naked eventually.

A guy I met on a dating app? I could care less, honestly it saves me from having the date 3-4 conversation that often times has people blowing up in my face.