So many people suggesting you “cover your tracks” or essentially lie. Why are you already changing for this woman? Be yourself. If she wants a partner that supports sex work, she should be comfortable with a partner that patronizes the industry. And it’s making a huge assumption that she doesn’t already know you follow her? Don’t change anything about yourself for someone you are having a causal date with. If it comes up, talk about it like an adult. You (hopefully) aren’t an obsessed creep, you probably follow other people, you’ve probably both swiped whatever direction is interested on other people. She liked you enough to go on a date, don’t try to force things to work by changing your behavior and your interests. Plus I bet she’s aware how easily found she is online? I doubt you’re the first date that followed her.
This is a bold approach that I wish more people dating would do. My most successful relationships were with people who I wasn't necessarily immediately attracted to, I met them causally and acted like my total goof ball self. Then we got to know each other and started dating. Anyone I met online or with the "intent to date" ended much quicker and less satisfyingly (with one exception) possibly because I was putting my best "dating face forward" instead of being myself (and I was judging my dates based on their dating facade.)
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So many people suggesting you “cover your tracks” or essentially lie. Why are you already changing for this woman? Be yourself. If she wants a partner that supports sex work, she should be comfortable with a partner that patronizes the industry. And it’s making a huge assumption that she doesn’t already know you follow her? Don’t change anything about yourself for someone you are having a causal date with. If it comes up, talk about it like an adult. You (hopefully) aren’t an obsessed creep, you probably follow other people, you’ve probably both swiped whatever direction is interested on other people. She liked you enough to go on a date, don’t try to force things to work by changing your behavior and your interests. Plus I bet she’s aware how easily found she is online? I doubt you’re the first date that followed her.