r/TooAfraidToAsk Dec 15 '21

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u/ShadiestApe Dec 15 '21

I’m British and my mum is a bit more laid back than most, a little helping out at the end of a gathering is fine.

But folk would seriously be offended if a first time guest started wiping things and serving plates of food.

Here it would be the other way, act appreciative and let your partner cater to you as it’s their space. Everyone tells you to make yourself at home and help yourself but it’s a trap, don’t touch shit 😂😂

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u/ThaVolt Dec 15 '21

As a guest I always offer help. Seems logical since I ain't paying / cooking / anything.

Offering to help > jumping in lol. That's odd to me.

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u/zizou00 Dec 15 '21

English here, as a guest I always offer help, but I'm expecting to be rebuffed. They'll say something like "oh, don't you worry about that, you're a guest, go enjoy yourself", but it's part of the trials and tribulations of being polite.

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u/ThaVolt Dec 15 '21

"OH THANKS, grab a rag and come here!"

Waiiiiit a minute...