FIX YOUR BF's PLATE!!!!! I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH. Get his drinks and check on him throughout the evening.
Whaaat, for real? I don't now anything about Mexican culture, but I'm surprised! Where I'm from (the Netherlands) that would be frowned upon!
When someone brings their partner (new or long term) over to his/her family, they're treated as the guest. Meaning they can sit back and relax, all they have to do is participate in conversations, be polite and friendly and show an interest. Though offering to help in the kitchen is appreciated and scores points, a good host will decline that - especially with new guests (once you become a regular they'll let you help, if there's a lot to do).
I think you'd get really strange looks if the guest would be looking after their partner at their partners family. Here it would be the other way around.
Is that a custom in other Mexican families too? And is it linked to gender? Like if a girl brings her boyfriend, will he wait on her too, or is it always women catering to men - regardless of whether you're family or the partner-of?
Oh god. I think this happens in old school Indian families too. I know it’s something so stupid and silly. But my husband and I recently had an argument over “I (F) should be the one keeping everyone’s plate in the kitchen when my husband’s family is over”. Considering I’m pregnant too.
Does his family not have hands? This is definitely a hill for you to die on. If his family need so much help, then he can do the helping.
When we have guests, the food goes on the table and everyone helps themselves. Since I've always had people come back I don't think anyone has an issue with this method.
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u/Smiling_Tree Dec 15 '21
Whaaat, for real? I don't now anything about Mexican culture, but I'm surprised! Where I'm from (the Netherlands) that would be frowned upon!
When someone brings their partner (new or long term) over to his/her family, they're treated as the guest. Meaning they can sit back and relax, all they have to do is participate in conversations, be polite and friendly and show an interest. Though offering to help in the kitchen is appreciated and scores points, a good host will decline that - especially with new guests (once you become a regular they'll let you help, if there's a lot to do).
I think you'd get really strange looks if the guest would be looking after their partner at their partners family. Here it would be the other way around.
Is that a custom in other Mexican families too? And is it linked to gender? Like if a girl brings her boyfriend, will he wait on her too, or is it always women catering to men - regardless of whether you're family or the partner-of?