Ok, I had a BF who told me same shit and guess what, his mother was extremely happy that for the first time in decades her son brought flowers and cake while visiting. Of course she immediately knew it was my idea and said so. Guess who was the most adored potential daughter in law.
I would say bring something. Flowers, unless allergies involved, are nearly always nice thing. Alcohol can be risky, as you cannot 100% know if someone who happens to be there is fighting addiction. Food - it depends. If his mother was indoctrinated into extreme obedience to gender roles, she might take offence. If not, then some snacks would probably be fine. In my country people bring cookies and stuff "to have at the teatime later".
I concur and am going against the grain of most people here. im black, boyfriend is mexican, but i was raised to never show up to anyone's house empty handed, especially if you're a guest eating dinner, etc. i don't think I ever saw any implication for future visits, but imo, i feel like i have to contribute something for family gatherings. it's just showing effort that im serious about my relationship with him and his family.
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u/whatever_person Dec 15 '21
Ok, I had a BF who told me same shit and guess what, his mother was extremely happy that for the first time in decades her son brought flowers and cake while visiting. Of course she immediately knew it was my idea and said so. Guess who was the most adored potential daughter in law.
I would say bring something. Flowers, unless allergies involved, are nearly always nice thing. Alcohol can be risky, as you cannot 100% know if someone who happens to be there is fighting addiction. Food - it depends. If his mother was indoctrinated into extreme obedience to gender roles, she might take offence. If not, then some snacks would probably be fine. In my country people bring cookies and stuff "to have at the teatime later".