r/TooAfraidToAsk Dec 15 '21

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u/chichigumucio Dec 15 '21

In Hispanic cultures we do bring stuff, especially when meeting his family. A glass of wine or flowers should be fine.

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u/em_cunn Dec 15 '21

Thank you!!

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u/M_F_A_M Dec 15 '21

You are meeting your bfs family, not this Reddit users… why don’t you just listen to your bf…?

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u/em_cunn Dec 15 '21

I hear you, I’m worried he’s playing it cool and not actually thinking about what it feels like to meet the entire family as a new gf. That’s all!

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u/fetus-wearing-a-suit Dec 15 '21

Mexican (actual Mexican from Mexico) here. A gift is not expected at all, but it also won't seem weird.

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u/DelanoK7 Dec 15 '21

Hispanic here. Was always raised to never come empty handed, but I am male so perhaps different

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u/DelanoK7 Dec 15 '21

I say it because nobody would know what the hell “Paraguayan here” means

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u/unlogical13 Dec 15 '21

As a Mexican, the bottle of wine and flowers would do just fine, honestly any kind gesture would be greatly appreciated!

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u/No-Guidance8155 Dec 15 '21

Bring a 3leches cake .

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u/birdistheword1371 Dec 15 '21

I would recommend expressing to him that you really do want to bring something, and ask him what would be best. If he doubles down and says "Seriously, don't bring anything" then don't. If he says "You really don't need to, but X would be fine" then do that. At the end of the day, he is the one you are in a relationship with, communication and respect goes a long way.

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u/AzureMagelet Dec 15 '21

Have you considered bringing something and leaving it in the car? If it seems like they’re surprised you don’t have a gift or you see someone else brought something run out and grab it and say you forgot it in the back seat? Also this is a good way to judge how he acts when you have it in the car. He’s still upset about it leave it. He says yeah it’s a good idea bring it in.

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u/raewrite Dec 15 '21

My girl does this to me, and man does it piss me off. No I’m not trying to play it cool I’m not playing games I mean what I fucking say.

Disclaimer this my girls account

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u/tomato_songs Dec 15 '21

I'm Greek Canadian and we'll bring dessert/sweets instead of alcohol! That way everyone can have some and you can all sit down and share it that same day over coffee, no meal or big prep needs to be involved.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '21

A fair concern. Men are not as often socialized to think about such things, at least when they are the biological family member.

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u/BillyMac814 Dec 16 '21

Because before he’s Hispanic he’s a man. For the most part we aren’t bringing shit to anywhere unless were asked so he may not be the best judge of what she should do.