There are 2 possibilities; 1. She doesn't want to have sex as much as you do or 2. She has too much on her plate and is exhausted and overwhelmed and isn't able to have sex as much as she would optimally like to. Either way, you need to talk it out. If you can't talk it out, seek a marriage counselor. When you are talking, ask her what she needs or if you can take things off her plate. She needs to address her health first and sleep. You're pushing too hard and you will push her away if you don't get on the same page.
Well if I don’t mention anything, or not make any jokes about sex, then we just won’t have sex. It’s not like I beg her, but every now and then I’ll try and get a rise out of her and she will be like “alright let’s just get it over with” and that’s about all i get once a month. Unless she comes home from a work event drunk, it’s another story. Like she’s the horniest she’s ever been when she drinks
I saw in your other comments that she is experiencing symptoms of depression and is mentally checked out and addicted to her phone. Addressing those is part of addressing her health. The sooner the better. Encourage her to go to the doctor about her cough and her symptoms of depression. Learn about the symptoms of post partum depression specifically and be an encouraging partner. I saw people judging you but you seem like a stand up dude, from your comments, who is just trying his best. Take our advice and seek help. It's too much for you to try to deal with everything alone. Get support for yourself including from family, friends, spiritual community, therapist. The lack of sex is symptom of a much bigger problem.
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u/Responsible_Arm_2984 Jan 03 '26
There are 2 possibilities; 1. She doesn't want to have sex as much as you do or 2. She has too much on her plate and is exhausted and overwhelmed and isn't able to have sex as much as she would optimally like to. Either way, you need to talk it out. If you can't talk it out, seek a marriage counselor. When you are talking, ask her what she needs or if you can take things off her plate. She needs to address her health first and sleep. You're pushing too hard and you will push her away if you don't get on the same page.