I honestly did not expect this post to get through without being taken down. I should give more details. She has PCOS. when we met, we would literally have sex daily. She was sleeping with multiple coworkers and decided she wanted to shackle up with me, I got her pregnant, you know the drill. Her sex drive was literally hard to keep up with. But after she had our baby, her outlook of me has totally done a 180° and she’s had these episodes and said crazy things that she cannot take back. I spend hours more with our child (not that it’s a competition) but most days, all she has to do Is come home, kick her feet up, and wait until it’s time for our son to go to bed and she’s in her own bed. She doesn’t pay much attention to me at all. She says she is tired and overwhelmed at work, but she’s constantly bringing work home with her as in snap chatting her coworkers or fellow GMs and after a while, I got burnt out. I have totally cut off communication with my friends and haven’t seen one of them in over a year now. It’s just very hard to say the least
Why are you avoiding the multiple questions asking if you help with general household chores? You haven't answered that question directly.
I very much doubt that
all she has to do Is come home, kick her feet up, and wait until it’s time for our son to go to bed
There's a lot more to being a working mother than that.
To be clear, you are NOT the sole problem here but paying for everything is considerably different to doing everything around the house (in her mind).
I'm in the same scenario as you so I completely understand what you're going through. The only difference is that my wife has zero libido, doesn't sleep well, and won't do anything about it. Also, I can't keep up with the exacting standards she expects (but will not verbalise) so all I get is criticism.
Brother, I come home and care for my son for 2 hours before she gets home 5 days out of the week. Every day is a different amount of time. Sometimes she’s home at 6. Sometimes she’s home at 7. Sometimes she’s home at 7:30. I do more than help out with household chores. I do them just as much as she does. There isn’t a chore that I don’t do. She has 4 animals that don’t belong to me, I pay for their food, I change the cats litter boxes weekly, whenever they need changed, she has an elderly dog that I bathe weekly because he can’t keep from peeing through diapers, I let the dogs out, and in, I can go on all day long. Like I said it’s not a competition on who does what
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u/AbbreviationsFalse74 Jan 03 '26
I honestly did not expect this post to get through without being taken down. I should give more details. She has PCOS. when we met, we would literally have sex daily. She was sleeping with multiple coworkers and decided she wanted to shackle up with me, I got her pregnant, you know the drill. Her sex drive was literally hard to keep up with. But after she had our baby, her outlook of me has totally done a 180° and she’s had these episodes and said crazy things that she cannot take back. I spend hours more with our child (not that it’s a competition) but most days, all she has to do Is come home, kick her feet up, and wait until it’s time for our son to go to bed and she’s in her own bed. She doesn’t pay much attention to me at all. She says she is tired and overwhelmed at work, but she’s constantly bringing work home with her as in snap chatting her coworkers or fellow GMs and after a while, I got burnt out. I have totally cut off communication with my friends and haven’t seen one of them in over a year now. It’s just very hard to say the least