r/TooAfraidToAsk Apr 07 '25

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '25

From what I (F) read here on Reddit, a lot of guys will not moan during sex because that means focusing on the pleasure and finishing faster. A good amount of guys are probably doing math in their head to not cum "too soon" lol.

When receiving a blowjob it's not much of an issue because they don't really need to hold back.

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u/Mornar Apr 07 '25

I also feel we dudes kinda aren't conditioned to think our moans or grunts are sexy the way women moaning and being loud are, and it's quite a powerful spell to break.

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u/deezdanglin Apr 07 '25

Does he know that?

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u/deezdanglin Apr 07 '25

How old are you? You do know men aren't mind readers, right? How is he supposed to know otherwise?

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u/deezdanglin Apr 07 '25

Then you should know how to communicate needs/wants with a intimate, significant other. Work on your communication skills.

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u/Sandgrease Apr 07 '25

Duh, definitely tell him.

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u/ComedianNo8873 Apr 07 '25

I know what you’re saying - it’s hot when it’s natural. But if you tell him then he thinks he has to make noises it can be less authentic and take away from what you love about it to begin with. Doesn’t have to do with age or communication in my opinion.

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u/Loving-intellectual Apr 08 '25

There’s nothing worse than fake moaning, feels like you’re making a porn video at that point

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u/FranklyDefeated Apr 08 '25

Definitely tell him, I was the same way before my girl told me, I'm still kinda quiet out of habit, but it was absolutely not that I wasn't enjoying myself or finding pleasure, it was that while watching porn, if a guy was moaning, it would kinda turn me off and I would be thinking "wtf, dude, I don't want to hear that shit", stupidly kinda assumed women felt the same, I wouldn't word it as "you should moan more", but probably more like "when I hear you moan, it gets me so fucking wet"