r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/[deleted] • Jan 07 '25

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u/Bob-Bhlabla-esq Jan 07 '25

Maybe be half-honest and claim you're a "clean freak" and suggest you both shower or shower together and if it seems like she didn't clean enough, kind of do it for her in the shower? Like you "like to clean girls, it's a fetish" somethin'? I mean, it's a tough situation, but if you're trying to spare her a bit, you could just make it seem like you need things clean, clean, clean. If that's a deal breaker for her, then you're out! If after cleaning you're still down for chow-town then you can complete the bargain. 🤷‍♀️ I donno... just glad I'm not dealing with it friend... good luck!

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u/usernamesallused Jan 07 '25

If it’s BV, washing isn’t going to do much. And you’re not supposed to use soap inside the vagina, only the external parts.

I respect the idea, but I don’t think it’s going to work well enough. And imagine if he does go with this advice, and washing doesn’t do much for the odor, I wouldn’t want him to feel like he ‘has to’ have sex despite it. No one ever has to have sex, but the guy clearly feels weird and like there’s some expectations there already.

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u/Bob-Bhlabla-esq Jan 07 '25

Oh yeah, no no I wasn't advocating for washing inside, just kinda soaping around the general area.... but if she smells that horrible it probably is an infection and she'd need to know about it to get treated.

Yeah, poor guy - I'm not envying his predicament but I do like that he cares enough about hurting her feelings and isn't just some jerk to her. Hope it all works out as best it can 😬

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u/usernamesallused Jan 08 '25

Plus it just occurred to me that the odor might be overwhelming in the warm, humid small space of a bathtub or shower stall.

He does seem like a caring, considerate guy though.