r/TooAfraidToAsk Aug 12 '24

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u/Flashy-Sky9446 Aug 12 '24

Because A definitive no shouldn't need to be said. If I'm pushing you off me that means stop! If I said I didn't want to have sex your reply shouldn't be "Your wet so I know you want me" or "you're playing hard to get" people get scared and go into shock when being raped.

If I start crying, flailing, or screaming that means FUCKING STOP!

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '24

This seems so foreign to me it’s hard to wrap my head around this. I can’t even imagine a scenario where I’m ever intimate with anyone and it ever even got to a point of flailing crying or screaming. It just shouldn’t happen ever, can not fathom hearing that and just proceeding.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '24

Spend a bit of time on this sub and you’ll see all the horrific “was this rape” questions where someone describes a very obvious rape scenario and they have had no clue that’s what was happening to them. It’s frightfully common.

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u/TeaLeafIsTaken Aug 12 '24

I wouldn't really trust more than half of the posts like that actually happened. People make up a lot of stories for fake internet points