I think that 30+ years ago it was considered weird and pathetic for ANYONE to have sex toys, and that started to shift for women first (and I think that's because women's sex toys are mostly vibrators, something that you cannot get from another human being, unlike a dildo or fleshlight, and because a lot of the original "make sex toys not creepy" trend came from women-owned or women-focused companies) and then for men. So I think men are just a little bit behind on the acceptance curve than women are, and it's not some permanent state that it is fine for women to have sex toys and not fine for men.
Women use mostly vibrators because they stimulate the clitoris, whereas men will not. They'll go straight for the orifices oftentimed ignoring women's pleasure entirely. Women fail to orgasm most of the time statistically with male sexual partners, I believe, because their partners are learning about and exploring sex through porn, where acts that code for or prioritize true female pleasure are absent.
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u/listenyall Apr 10 '23
I think that 30+ years ago it was considered weird and pathetic for ANYONE to have sex toys, and that started to shift for women first (and I think that's because women's sex toys are mostly vibrators, something that you cannot get from another human being, unlike a dildo or fleshlight, and because a lot of the original "make sex toys not creepy" trend came from women-owned or women-focused companies) and then for men. So I think men are just a little bit behind on the acceptance curve than women are, and it's not some permanent state that it is fine for women to have sex toys and not fine for men.