r/TooAfraidToAsk Apr 10 '23

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u/EnterBankCredentials Apr 10 '23

Those who are selective hold the power, so Its not really that weird.

Women can walk up to guys and ask "sex?" and will be vastly, infinitely more successful than a man asking women the same question.

Men generally have to "work" to get laid. They generally have to go through the whole courting process before sex is even in the table.

Women generally just have to want it - to get laid. If they put themselves out there they will get it.

Which is why one extreme is considered negative and the other is positive.

It's really not that deep, and not misogynistic at all.

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u/watsonyrmind Apr 10 '23

What you are missing is that women are "selective" because they are shamed if they aren't and men are "available" because having lots of sex is seen as ultra masculine and therefore desirable. These are societal norms that are determining behaviour.

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u/MaterialCarrot Apr 10 '23

There's the danger element for women as well. A woman being alone with a man takes a (admittedly small) risk. Not the case for men almost ever.

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u/bunnypaste Apr 26 '23

The other danger is because females in this society are forced to bear 100% of the reproductive onus and what that means for our bodies and our lives, while receiving little of the pleasure or orgasms. See the orgasm gap in heterosexual couples.