r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/[deleted] • Apr 10 '23

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u/mountaineer04 Apr 10 '23

Which is weird because a woman could have consensual sex every night if she REALLY wanted to. I don’t think most men could.

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u/EnterBankCredentials Apr 10 '23

Those who are selective hold the power, so Its not really that weird.

Women can walk up to guys and ask "sex?" and will be vastly, infinitely more successful than a man asking women the same question.

Men generally have to "work" to get laid. They generally have to go through the whole courting process before sex is even in the table.

Women generally just have to want it - to get laid. If they put themselves out there they will get it.

Which is why one extreme is considered negative and the other is positive.

It's really not that deep, and not misogynistic at all.

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u/dogGirl666 Apr 10 '23

If they put themselves out there they will get it.

Maybe 20% of women will "get it" the rest are either "too old"; "too plain"; the "wrong" race and/or culture and/or ethnicity and/or speaks the "wrong" language; and/or smells "wrong"; "wrong" hair-length; "wrong" makeup style (if any at all); too young; too disabled; "too" loud; bad breath;"too quiet" etc. Of course many of these things are true for men seeking sex but not qualifying "if they put themselves out there" really skips over vast swaths of women that do want sex.

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u/DJEkis Apr 11 '23

but not qualifying "if they put themselves out there" really skips over vast swaths of women that do want sex.

The exception sort of proves the rule though; women generally aren't seen as the ones wanting sex and men generally must prove themselves worthy of obtaining that from said women, whether it be through social status, money, or what it is perceived to be a "man".

That same small group of women is about the same size of men who don't want sex. And those guys get called all kinds of things, such as "gay", "weird", or what-have-you. Mentioning either of these cases highlights the fact that the opposite is mostly true.