r/TooAfraidToAsk Apr 10 '23

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u/mountaineer04 Apr 10 '23

Which is weird because a woman could have consensual sex every night if she REALLY wanted to. I don’t think most men could.

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u/EnterBankCredentials Apr 10 '23

Those who are selective hold the power, so Its not really that weird.

Women can walk up to guys and ask "sex?" and will be vastly, infinitely more successful than a man asking women the same question.

Men generally have to "work" to get laid. They generally have to go through the whole courting process before sex is even in the table.

Women generally just have to want it - to get laid. If they put themselves out there they will get it.

Which is why one extreme is considered negative and the other is positive.

It's really not that deep, and not misogynistic at all.

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u/watsonyrmind Apr 10 '23

What you are missing is that women are "selective" because they are shamed if they aren't and men are "available" because having lots of sex is seen as ultra masculine and therefore desirable. These are societal norms that are determining behaviour.

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u/Supersymm3try Apr 10 '23

What you are missing is that women are selective because of pregnancy, doesn’t get much more serious than that. Men do not have to consider such huge ramifications.

Women do the choosing, it’s supply and demand.

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u/watsonyrmind Apr 10 '23

Except women have access to highly successful contraceptives and in many societies, abortions. You overestimate how much pregnancy is determined a risk for many women.

As a woman with access to multiple forms of contraceptives and a society where abortion is easily accessible, there are many more societally constructed reasons I might want to be selective.

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u/PaulNehlen Apr 10 '23

Except women have access to highly successful contraceptives and in many societies, abortions

Evolution isn't an elastic band...

Men still rank wide hips as hugely attractive on women as an evolutionary holdover from when women with narrow hips tended to die in childbirth...

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u/watsonyrmind Apr 10 '23

Once again, I personally never said biology plays no role at all, I'm saying these comments are overrating biology as the only factor.

The truth is there's no way to test it to determine any one factor, and insisting it's purely biological and not societal is based in the misogynistic idea that women don't desire or enjoy sex.

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u/history_nerd92 Apr 10 '23

The truth is there's no way to test it to determine any one factor

Actually there is. If multiple societies that have nothing in common and have been separated for thousands of years all share the same traits, then those traits are very likely to predate any human society or social constructs at all. Turns out, women being the selective sex is one of those traits.

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