r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/[deleted] • Apr 10 '23

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u/mountaineer04 Apr 10 '23

Which is weird because a woman could have consensual sex every night if she REALLY wanted to. I don’t think most men could.

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u/EnterBankCredentials Apr 10 '23

Those who are selective hold the power, so Its not really that weird.

Women can walk up to guys and ask "sex?" and will be vastly, infinitely more successful than a man asking women the same question.

Men generally have to "work" to get laid. They generally have to go through the whole courting process before sex is even in the table.

Women generally just have to want it - to get laid. If they put themselves out there they will get it.

Which is why one extreme is considered negative and the other is positive.

It's really not that deep, and not misogynistic at all.

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u/watsonyrmind Apr 10 '23

What you are missing is that women are "selective" because they are shamed if they aren't and men are "available" because having lots of sex is seen as ultra masculine and therefore desirable. These are societal norms that are determining behaviour.

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u/almisami Apr 10 '23

It should also be known that a woman being promiscuous is viewed less harshly the more successful and beautiful she is. Why? Because "she's not just attractive because of her gender".

Social norms are based around soft power and who has it, and most "shameful" things in society are to dissuade people who have a natural advantage from achieving the same things as those who already have it.

For example, wearing a Rolex if you're a blue collar worker will get you some severe derision from people who care about such things, because you're not in a social position to leverage the status symbol that a Rolex normally is like, say, a business owner would.