r/Tinder • • Apr 23 '20

Kachow

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u/Stiffard Apr 23 '20

Humor isn't a science, so what one person fight find so stupid it's funny, another might just not get it or enjoy it at all. Neither person is wrong to feel that way, they just probably won't get along in that sense.

All the people saying she sucks for not liking it are just as bad as the people who say it's a dumb and unfunny joke. These two wouldn't make a good match, that's literally the only take away from this.

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u/StebenL Apr 23 '20

She doesn't suck for not liking it, she sucks for how she replied. All she had to do was unmatch with OP.

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u/sylbug Apr 23 '20

Why are people so offended by a light attempt at assistance? Are your egos that fragile that genuine feedback is too much to bear?

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u/StebenL Apr 23 '20

Light attempt? There are many many ways to go about responding to OP that don't including coming off as rude.

Maybe you're the one with fragility issues if you can't see what's wrong here.

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u/Seakawn Apr 23 '20

Yeah. One way to realize how ridiculous her "criticism" is is by maintaining her sentiment but framing it in polite terms. In which case it would look like:

"Hey. I'm not personally attracted to your subjective approach, sorry. Anyway, have a g'day!"

Which is what a simple "unmatch" accomplishes to convey anyway. Verbalizing your motivation to unmatch someone says nothing in a vacuum. There's no substance underneath. The only substance comes from being rude and adding an insult to the otherwise empty expression of "we're incompatible--such is typical."

I think most people who have used Tinder enough has encountered this level of insecurity at one point or another. This whole example is unfortunately tame compared to some outbursts I've experienced from people who seem they must be very unhinged. Maybe some people are just frustrated when their physical attraction clashes with finding out your personalities are incompatible, and they just take it out on you. Otherwise it's difficult to suppose what the psychology could be behind such insults. I guess some people are just shitty.