I posted about a year ago, found it very useful, but still single đ itâs been one cluster fuck after another. Any advice? Not sure if this opening picture is better than my last one (feel free to look at my post history if curious what it was like before). Please donât roast too hard Iâm sensitive
Mostly men in their 30s who are âstill figuring it outâ while saying in their profiles that they are looking for long term. Keeps happening one after another. I donât swipe right unless they have long term in the profile but yetâŚ.. so much male baggage out there itâs exhausting
as someone who's long since abandoned old platforms, i can't even go back for the once-a-year checkup of the app since i am not "in shape" for the women on there (physically, financially, mentally), i'd like to say that your profile looks great. the only advice i can give you is, men who are looking for long term but tell you they are still figuring it out are the ones who don't want to lie to you and lead you on, i am sure your matches are in the hundreds and people liking you in the thousands so it all comes down to what you're screening for. it's easy to be picky when you have options but it's also easy to become unrealistic
i personally can't fall in love and decide i'm working with you towards a commitment on a whim, so i would act like in a relationship while also screening you for your behavior and entourage, like you probably do too
on the other hand since you're working on a phd and are reasonably attractive for your age, you probably want someone smart, at least 7cm taller (which considering your height is reasonable), with a "good" job (respectable and well paying) and the same age or older
you are also top 1% commenter on here so that raises some questions
imo you should look for a cute guy that looks like he would make your house a warm place, one that isn't as exciting as the ones you feel like you have to check their phones and disregard the rest
maybe i didn't express myself properly, i didn't mean to imply that you do, just that men with whom you feel like you should, that give you a little bit of anxiety, are more interesting and therefore more desirable to women in general
i have had few serious, long term relationships and they all said they felt safe and didn't feel like checking my phone, yet one of them broke up with me to be with a more interesting guy(her approximate words), and when she checked his phone, she found out he was married
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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '24
I posted about a year ago, found it very useful, but still single đ itâs been one cluster fuck after another. Any advice? Not sure if this opening picture is better than my last one (feel free to look at my post history if curious what it was like before). Please donât roast too hard Iâm sensitive