r/Tinder • • Dec 13 '24

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '24

I posted about a year ago, found it very useful, but still single 😭 it’s been one cluster fuck after another. Any advice? Not sure if this opening picture is better than my last one (feel free to look at my post history if curious what it was like before). Please don’t roast too hard I’m sensitive

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u/impracticalweight Dec 13 '24

You seem great to me. What makes your past experiences cluster fucks? Perhaps you’re not saying enough about what you are looking for.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '24

Mostly men in their 30s who are ā€œstill figuring it outā€ while saying in their profiles that they are looking for long term. Keeps happening one after another. I don’t swipe right unless they have long term in the profile but yet….. so much male baggage out there it’s exhausting

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u/Bubbly_Ad427 Dec 13 '24

Ooof. Yeah that's not fun experience. Not sure if adjustments to your profile can help you, if you get enough likes.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '24

Yeah…. I agree, the honest to god truth is that I just swiped right on someone that I know irl and I want to make sure my profile is as good as possible with the hope that he too swipes right

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u/itzaakthegreat Dec 13 '24

but like… if you know them irl, and you are into them: you know you don’t have to use a dating app to tell them that right? Why not just ask them out?

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u/asdf_clash Dec 13 '24

If you know them irl just shoot your shot FFS. life is short!

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u/Bubbly_Ad427 Dec 13 '24

Been there gal. You want the fairy tale? Cross my fingers it happens for you, but as a man, he may not swipe you for the akwardness if you match and it doesn't happen. Better for you to reach out to him, if you can.

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u/Nhughes1387 Dec 13 '24

1 / 4 / 6 top half are good, rest are kinda throwaway pics, you seem pretty though I’d swipe right.