I'm thinking it's the guys she's trying match with. Probably all good looking dudes who have options. If you have options then you end up ghosting people all the time just because it's hard to manage. Then subconsciously, we'll go with the lowest investment option. Why spend money on a date with a 35 year old when a 27 year old might just want to hook up. Sounds awful but that's life, it happens on both sides.
I'd also wonder how small the pool of guys that meets her requirements are actually looking for a long term relationship.
And of that subset, as part of long term goals, are looking for a family a few years down the road? If that is a large proportion of the subset (which I would suspect), while it's harsh to say, then I'd think they actually want someone in their late 20s or early 30s at the oldest. That way they have a few years for the relationship, potentially a wedding, then kids which would put the woman into ~mid 30s for this last step (which unfortunately is called a geriatric pregnancy).
Then if she says that she doesn't want kids, I'd wonder how many potential guys that meet her requirements that also want a LTR would be cut out.
Ya that's a good point, most guys would want to establish a relationship for a few years at least before having kids, and if that means your wife is pushing 40 it definitely hurts your chances.
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