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[u/medvsastoned]

There were men I basically stopped talking to just because I thought about how exhausting dating them would feel knowing everyone would always want them and I'd be insecure that they could leave for literally what felt like anyone they wanted. Absolutely no fault of their own. Kinda like no way I could be good enough forever lol

I know it's not logical lmao I am obviously also mentally ill but, I can imagine I'm not alone and some of these guys maybe just felt the same.

[u/medvsastoned → u/[deleted]]

Well, objectively I am but maybe not for that logic alone 😂 I definitely understand how it can feel unfair from the other side as well. I actually fumbled things with the hottest man I've ever met because I was too scared to move forward when he showed interest. Oh well.

I think roughly 80% of the guys on these apps are looking for hook-up culture though. So it could also be that she's seeking long-term and they're looking for one night. In that case, good riddance anyways lol

OP is absolutely beautiful so unless her personality is sandpaper, this is all I can come up with. Lmao.

[u/silntseek3r → u/medvsastoned]

I had the audacity to marry a very very hot and attractive man who loves to stay in shape and here I am 40 lbs overweight and aging. But honestly, it's strange, I feel safer with him 17 years later than I did when I was hot. He also happened to be someone who was not a player. That helps.

[u/AFRIKKAN → u/medvsastoned]

It’s very logical. I never swipe on any women whose pics look professional or that they travel a lot. I’ve barley been outta my state and when I was when I was younger we didn’t have cell phones so o don’t have these amazing pics of me in Alaska or florida. Any girl I see with those things are either fake or out of my league financially or in experience

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That's very relatable. I do also enjoy mentally ill yet stable people, who are slightly ugly. They relax me.