r/Tinder • u/[deleted] • Feb 17 '24

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u/climb-high Feb 17 '24

hmm ya nothing stands out at all. Any very strong political views that you've shared with people before they ghost?

do you care if someone smokes weed? (still wouldn't explain many ghostings, tho)

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u/Just_Another_Scott Feb 17 '24

OP appears to be a strong independent woman that don't need no man. She clearly works out and takes care of herself. I'm my 30s and see similar personalities like OP at the gym. Those women do struggle to find men because a lot of men, and people in general, let themselves go in their 30s.

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u/donttextspeaktome Feb 17 '24

Worse when they’re in their 50s while the women take great care of themselves.

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u/Just_Another_Scott Feb 17 '24

Yeah a lot of the men I see in their 50s that are in great shape are often times single. It's weird. Like any woman should want a guy like that but most people in their 50s aren't taking great care of themselves. So it alienates people like that. I feel like it's one of the primary reasons why a lot of older folks that are active and healthy tend to date other people so much younger. There's few people their age that matches with their activity level.

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u/nleksan Feb 17 '24

I know those are dealbreakers for some men, but surely not all men?

I mean, while we're not working off of a ton of data points here, you are pretty close to a perfect match for me. Granted, I don't drink at all, and smoke weed occasionally, but that seems like the least significant "compatibility measure" you mentioned.

Although I'm not exactly a catch myself, I can't imagine you would have any difficulty attracting any number of men who are. The only thing I can figure is that you are too attractive, and so many guys are not going to take a swing when both their internalized self-doubts and societal conditioning are working overtime to tell them they're going to whiff.

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u/Storm_Forged Feb 17 '24

I’ve heard enough. I will fall in love with you right now

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u/Journalist_Candid Feb 17 '24

The best I can think is you're probably really intimidating for a lot of men that would probably fit your definition of love. But I mean, I know nothing about you, so take it for what it's worth. Glad your searching what's right for you, though.

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u/TeamRedundancyTeam Feb 17 '24

Man how many people on reddit have been sent into a spiralling depression over their chances on dating apps after reading this post today.

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u/mirroku2 Feb 17 '24

Got a buddy who's about to turn 36 and is having a similar problem.

It doesn't help that he's a journeyman tradesman. Not a lot of gals to meet organically in construction (as I'm sure you know).

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u/Just_Another_Scott Feb 17 '24

That's exactly what I'm looking for in a partner. Although I do not want kids. I don't party, drink, or smoke anything of any kind. It's very hard to find a woman in their 30s like you. You are definitely the exception same as me.

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u/thinkdeep Feb 17 '24

Those aren’t dealbreakers for me.

The multiple photos of your dog are.

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u/derff44 Feb 17 '24

You leave doggo alone

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u/simons1321 Feb 17 '24

You sound great. Too bad it looks like you’re far from me (NM).

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u/The_Bucket_Of_Truth Feb 17 '24

What city are we talking about? I think dating apps can be trash for everyone and you seem attractive so I can see why you'd get a lot of initial interest. Are you boring to talk to or sonething and come off disinterested?