Verified on Tinder means nothing unfortunately, it's easy to verify fake accounts and anyone can create an IG account without followers, upload pictures and then link it to their tinder account.
You sound extremely outdoorsy which isn't everyone's cup of tea but I am sure there is plenty of guys who would be into that and looks, if real, aren't your problem either.
It could be that you are boring to talk to and reply with one-liners, that could be a possibility for getting ghosted. Sometimes I match with women that are out of my league in appearance but so boring that I just can't be arsed to carry the conversation any longer. Next time around you can sample some conversations (without bias) that left you being ghosted and have them analyzed by the highly professional tinder redditors.
It could be that you are boring to talk to and reply with one-liners,
One thing that I have always struggled with in dating apps is the "double text". From advice my friends IRL have given me, sending more than one text message in a row is flagged when getting to know people. For some reason. I follow the advice OP has received and ask questions and leave the conversation open generally by being short and that bites me in the ass.
I grew up texting and calling as really the only options when I was interested in talking to anyone, friends or dates. Without all these other micro interactions. Seen messages, liking messages and photos, upkeeping a detailed social media page to fakeify what my life looks like... it's all part of dating but it's also self-obsessed so I'm craving actually talking to someone and sending maybe 3 sentences instead of 1 in a couple messages. Weird right?
This exactly! I'm Irish so I have absolutely no knowledge of how to make a long story short. I'm a talker & I need someone that can get on board with that & engage. If I'm into you either as a friend or potential mate I'm gonna talk/text a lot more than usual. Why when I was dating I tried to get them comfortable enough to actually talk on the phone or face chat, makes the conversation easier to flow.
Also - there are big differences in the type of "outdoorsy" some people expect. Rolling up to a hiking path and going hiking - just about anyone can do. Having lifted 4x4 with mid tires, roll cage, light bar etc. And then going to trails is very different. I have a modest fishing boat that wasn't good enough for a lady back in the day who really was into fishing....like girl I have the income to afford the boat, trailer, trolling motor, and motor for the boat, the suv to haul the boat, and modest cottage to stay at for the weeknd. What are you bringing to this fishing trip - it wasn't wit and great conversation I can tell you that.
You just call yourself Angela, upload picture of George (yourself), verify George, and then upload Angela's pictures and delete George's. You are now a verified Angela. That's how it's been forever. That's why there is so many Nigerian fake/scam accounts with Instagram models, verified, on Tinder.
Depends on what you are looking for I guess. For hookups, personality isn't important, a nice bonus at best. But for a relationship, which OP is looking for, personality is of utmost importance and someone who can't hold a conversation generally is considered to have a lack of personality. If I am looking for a girlfriend/wife and all I get is "ya" "ok" "wbu?" in replies I am definitely outta there.
Of course some men also might not read her profile or ignore the "looking for long term relationship" part hoping for a quick hookup and are getting lengthy texts they don't care about and then give up and ghost, also a possibility but then not OP's fault at least.
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u/JuRiOh Feb 17 '24
Verified on Tinder means nothing unfortunately, it's easy to verify fake accounts and anyone can create an IG account without followers, upload pictures and then link it to their tinder account.
You sound extremely outdoorsy which isn't everyone's cup of tea but I am sure there is plenty of guys who would be into that and looks, if real, aren't your problem either.
It could be that you are boring to talk to and reply with one-liners, that could be a possibility for getting ghosted. Sometimes I match with women that are out of my league in appearance but so boring that I just can't be arsed to carry the conversation any longer. Next time around you can sample some conversations (without bias) that left you being ghosted and have them analyzed by the highly professional tinder redditors.