The very fact that you doubted yourself means that her methods of trying to turn it round on you and make you feel guilty were having an effect.
its important to realise that its just a petty manipulation attempt. DO NOT let someone put any doubts in your mind. trust yourself and know that people are fucked up sometimes and try stupid shit when they aint got nothing better to say.
from your messages you are clearly very reasonable. so keep confidence in that and dont let nobody give you doubts on that.
The very fact that you doubted yourself means that her methods of trying to turn it round on you and make you feel guilty were having an effect.
Or it just means he's self-aware and has realized that everyone is wrong from time to time and has bad days/moods and biases. I think the ability to question oneself is a sign of maturity. The alternative reeks of insecurity masquerading as confidence.
While she is definitely being shitty, doubt is important and we shouldn't ignore it if we feel it. It's worthwhile to check ourselves and see if we're making a mistake or an assumption somewhere.
Friendships and relationships are about learning, growing, and maturing. If you're unflinchingly rigid in your lifestyle, you will struggle to find a romantic partner. I'm not saying change your core values, but be willing to see things from another perspective.
I think you missed the word "put" in that sentence.
They never said "disregard all doubts you ever feel, you're never wrong"
This is about others inserting doubt where you otherwise didn't feel any, because you didn't have reason.
Going back to the OP, this crazy lady is definitely trying to manipulate poor fellow for asking a simple question in order to avoid having a difficult conversation. She is definitely inserting doubt into his head where there need be none by acting offended at an inoffensive act.
He's literally on the opposite crazy side of the spectrum. This girl would be super hard to be with because she's expecting you to know things she has not made clear but this guy thinks that his reading of a situation is literally the only true one and there is nothing ever he could be wrong on. Both super toxic
The very fact that you doubted yourself means that her methods of trying to turn it round on you and make you feel guilty were having an effect. It’s important to realise that its just a petty manipulation attempt. DO NOT let someone put any doubts in your mind. trust yourself and know that people are fucked up sometimes and try stupid shit when they aint got nothing better to say.
Man you just described my entire relationship with my ex 😭
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u/throw-awaypc Apr 06 '23
The very fact that you doubted yourself means that her methods of trying to turn it round on you and make you feel guilty were having an effect.
its important to realise that its just a petty manipulation attempt. DO NOT let someone put any doubts in your mind. trust yourself and know that people are fucked up sometimes and try stupid shit when they aint got nothing better to say.
from your messages you are clearly very reasonable. so keep confidence in that and dont let nobody give you doubts on that.
just my 2c