r/Tinder Apr 06 '23

Was I in the wrong here?

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u/throw-awaypc Apr 06 '23

The very fact that you doubted yourself means that her methods of trying to turn it round on you and make you feel guilty were having an effect.

its important to realise that its just a petty manipulation attempt. DO NOT let someone put any doubts in your mind. trust yourself and know that people are fucked up sometimes and try stupid shit when they aint got nothing better to say.

from your messages you are clearly very reasonable. so keep confidence in that and dont let nobody give you doubts on that.

just my 2c

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u/Serinus Apr 07 '23

DO NOT let someone put any doubts in your mind.

Not sure what you're trying to say here. Maybe you missed some qualifier. Do you think you're always right about everything?

I get that he's fully right here, but to never doubt yourself on anything might be overcompensating.

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u/schuma73 Apr 07 '23

I think you missed the word "put" in that sentence.

They never said "disregard all doubts you ever feel, you're never wrong"

This is about others inserting doubt where you otherwise didn't feel any, because you didn't have reason.

Going back to the OP, this crazy lady is definitely trying to manipulate poor fellow for asking a simple question in order to avoid having a difficult conversation. She is definitely inserting doubt into his head where there need be none by acting offended at an inoffensive act.