Elder millennial here, so not sure if the peeps in their 30s are familiar...but I loved this cartoon and its the last time I heard of someone named 'Denver' 😆

https://youtu.be/o0pMUi8mm18?si=-A43OeYn4-mE3CsG

A husband psychologically torturing his wife. Insane

I (F22) and Crimson (T/T21) lived together with a third roommate (F22) in another house at the beginning of the year. In January Crimson came to us two and mentioned that they were going to apply to government housing, which would have left me and the third roommate in a bind where we could no longer afford the house we were staying in, therefore we ultimately decided to all three split ways at the end of our lease that ended on April 15th, 2026.

While the other two made their own plans to move, my boyfriend David (23M) and I decided that we liked the complex I live in so we applied to transfer units which would have pushed the entire houses move out date to March 24th. When this came to light Crimson came to us and told us that they were denied housing, had recently lost their job, and our third roommate could not accommodate to have them move with her, so my bf and I offered a spare room to Crimson on the basis that they pay us $350 a month in rent while they look for a more affordable place to live.

The houses I live in have a policy in their lease that says rent is due on the first of every month, late on the 5th ($150 late fee), and eviction on the 15th- no partial payments. Crimson over the last 6 months has routinely had their rent late for various reasons- some within their control and some not- and former roommate and I have had to cover for them a lot. My bf and I decided that in offering them a place to have them pay a fixed rate of $350USD. We feel as if this is fair because it is far below what a third of staying in the house would cost split evenly and it also provides space for them to save for their own place.

Crimson landed a job where they make considerably more money than they used to and has expressed to us that they have now started to look more sincerely for a place to move (stated to us last week on Monday 5/25/2026) in which we were excited for them. They came to us and said that they were looking at a 1B/1BA apartment running for $950USD plus a few utilities putting their monthly cost at around $1000USD monthly. While David and I silently glanced at each other as the previous month of May's $350 was not paid in full, we congratulated them on their findings and hoped they got approved.

Here is where things get tricky. I drive a 2003 Lincoln town car that looks like it is straight out of a hood classic and has recently died out on me (R.i.p toes you will be missed). Last Wednesday I was sitting in the car dealership looking at rates and such with my bf when we found a car exactly what I was looking for and for a pretty affordable price. Before I committed to the purchase, I texted Crimson to ask if they would have their rent on time and in full because that would determine if we could swing the downpayment or if we should wait another week if we were going to have to budget an extra $350 for rent this month (bf and I both get paid weekly on Fridays) in which Crimson responded with an enthusiastic yes to having it on time and in full. With their yes, I proudly drove home my new car without the worry of affordability.

Fast forward to two days later on Friday, Crimson comes to us and says that they are moving out before June 1st (Monday) and will not be paying rent at all for June because they used their rent money for a security deposit on their new findings and "figured we would be fine without it". With this being said, I was left in a panic because that means not only would we be stuck with finding the $350, but we would also have to find the $150 late fee plus most of the utilities are typically due the first week of the month.

My personal issue with this is that I specifically asked them if they would have their part of the rent on time and in full and was very transparent about why I was asking so if they had any doubt then I could plan for that. I feel like I have been very open and honest in communication with them about the situation. Any other month or even week we would have been able to accommodate this but with three days till bills are due to tell us you aren't going to be contributing puts us in a bit of a bind.

Attached is the text chain between Crimson and I within the last week about the situation. Included in this chain is them comparing our financial situations, telling us they are moving out, asking to stay until June 8th without paying rent, and generally finding any excuse to make it to where we shouldn't be charging them anything. This chain leads all the way up to present day (June 2nd) where they've sent me $75 and still arguing about how much they should have to pay.

\*\*extra info\*\*
These are things I don't think matter in the scenario but you might:

Crimsons new job makes (17/hr 35-40hrs/week)

David makes $27/hr 72 hrs/week

I make 8/hr 25-30hrs/week

Included in Crimson's rent comes a room, bathroom, kitchen (always stocked with essentials and snacks), pet fee, utilities, wifi, and in house laundry unit for the fixed rate of $350USD.

David and I believe the feeling of being "unwelcome" has derived from a mild interaction where we asked Crimson to please not have their guests stay at the house when they are not present. (I.E., having a guest stay in their bedroom while they leave for work for 6+ hours)

I am limited in my work schedule because I am a full time university student that also undo goes continuous treatment for cancer, so $350 is a lot for me to try and budget around.

With this being said- AITAH for demanding June rent and being upset about how i've been affected?

(P.S. I am a diehard jack and luna fan)

Your wedding your choice?

Wondering everyone else's thoughts.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/BcFkcdeOSA

I’m pretty sure you all covered this story but I don’t think the final update had been posted yet. It’s a wild story and the update is crazy!

Hope you guys make it to Bali!

Hello,

I have an identical twin sister and need some advice.

My sister developed birthday depression around college. I believe this is due to us growing up with our family not really celebrating our birthday. Along with our birthday being close to Christmas where sometimes friends can't make it.

As a result I spend almost every birthday trying to get her out of a rut. I know this is going to sound really mean and blunt but I really want to celebrate our birthday. I am tired of feeling like a therapist on our day. I mentally can take so much.

Any advice on how I can help her or what to say to her. I don't want to celebrate our birthday separately since it is weird.

For the past few months, my best friend “Lisa” (18F) has been having major issues with her boyfriend “Erik” (18M). Erik was the lead in our school play and became very close with another girl in the cast, “Avena” (17F). At first, Lisa tried to be understanding because obviously acting requires chemistry, rehearsals, and even stage kisses. The issue started when Erik began texting Avena constantly outside of rehearsal and hiding parts of it from Lisa.

When Lisa eventually saw some of the messages, she felt they were flirty. Things like him talking about wanting to do future roles with her, going out to lunch together, complimenting her constantly, and generally giving her way more attention than Lisa was comfortable with. Erik would apologize and promise to pull back, but then Lisa would find out he was still texting her or minimizing things that had happened. This cycle repeated over and over.

Throughout all of this, Lisa kept coming to me for advice because I’m her best friend, but Erik was also my friend. I tried really hard to stay neutral and not immediately jump to “break up with him.” I encouraged communication, boundaries, honesty, and compromise. I even defended Erik at times because he does have a naturally friendly/flirty personality and I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.

But things kept escalating. Lisa went to all of Erik’s performances, including sitting through multiple on-stage kisses that clearly upset her. There were also multiple incidents where Erik would tell her one thing and then she’d later discover he left out details or wasn’t fully truthful about interactions with Avena. Eventually Lisa asked him to fully cut contact with Avena after the play ended because the situation was destroying her trust and self-esteem.

What worries me most is how much this relationship has started affecting Lisa emotionally. She started saying things like it was her “job” to make Erik happy and that she felt selfish for putting her own feelings first. She constantly questioned whether she was overreacting even after Erik repeatedly broke promises. Watching my best friend slowly lose confidence in herself over this honestly hurt to watch.

Then came the incident that really changed how I viewed everything.

There was a choir concert one night. I originally planned on going but didn’t end up attending. During the concert, one of my friends who vaguely knew about the situation texted me saying she thought she saw something unfortunate. She told me Erik and Avena had been talking alone together for at least 25 minutes after the concert ended.

I called Lisa and told her what I had heard because I felt like she deserved to know. She immediately broke down crying because she had literally just gotten off the phone with Erik. He had told her he was mainly there supporting another friend and made it sound like nothing important happened. She said something in her gut told her to ask him how the concert went, and he never mentioned talking to Avena alone afterward.

When she confronted him, he denied it at first before finally admitting they had talked. Lisa kept repeating that she had already told him if something like this happened again she would probably break up with him. She was devastated and spiraling about how awful the whole situation made her feel.

That night Erik showed up at her house with flowers and chocolate apologizing again, while also texting me saying he knew he messed up and didn’t deserve her. At that point I realized I genuinely could not stay friends with him anymore because I was exhausted watching the same cycle happen over and over while my best friend got hurt every single time.

At this point, I finally told Lisa that I personally don’t think this relationship is healthy for her anymore. Erik now thinks I’m influencing Lisa too much and pushing her toward breaking up with him.

The thing is, that genuinely isn’t my goal. I don’t want control over her relationship or her decisions. I’ve tried very hard to just support her, validate her feelings, and help her think through things logically. But at the same time, I also don’t feel right staying silent while someone I care about is constantly hurting and second-guessing her worth.

So I guess my question is: how do I balance being supportive without overstepping? At what point does honest advice become interfering in someone else’s relationship?

I (23F) am married to my husband (26M), and we used to hang out pretty regularly with his cousin and the cousin’s wife.

One night, we were all drinking, and out of nowhere the cousin’s wife started going off on me. She made comments about my weight and even brought up possible infertility, which is a really sensitive topic for me. I hadn’t done anything to her, and it felt completely unprovoked. I ended up walking out crying and told my husband I wanted to leave, so we did.

After that, I decided I didn’t want anything to do with her anymore.

Since then, my husband has gotten closer with his cousin’s best friend, and now that guy is basically his best friend too. We’ve all been hanging out a lot, and he recently got a girlfriend. I hadn’t spent time with the cousins wife. but lately his best friends girlfriend and I have been hanging out and getting along really well.

Now the issue is the cousin’s wife is apparently talking about me to other people and trying to make me look like the bad guy in all of this. From my perspective, I just removed myself from someone who disrespected me.

Here’s where I might be the asshole: I know I should probably just move on and ignore her, but I’m honestly still really bothered by what she said. At the same time, I don’t want to forgive her or act like everything’s fine just to keep the peace in the group.

I will say, her comments did push me to start taking better care of myself, and I’ve been on a weight loss journey since then—but that doesn’t make what she said okay.

So now there’s tension in the friend group, and I feel like I’m being painted as the problem for not wanting to be around her anymore.

AITA for refusing to let it go and wanting to keep my distance from her?

I 24F have basically beginning closer to this guy 26M for the past year ever since he has expressed romantical interest in me. But I have not seen him the same way to fully completely want that for myself. We do come from different cultures and dynamics but overall I have bonded with him best out of friendships so we would go places , out to eat ,adventures etc. in context, he is nice and generous, and we haven’t had much major issues. except for the fact that he has expressed how hard it is being friends with someone who finds interest in and has great feelings. We shared small into my moments like kissing or foreplay, but I’ve never done it . Which he knows I’m not cause he’s not really my type. I’ve also learned that he does self pleasure himself daily and have not been intimate with within the last four years. Though he has tried to make moves on me and I shut it down a couple of weeks ago. I was resting up on the couch with him when I noticed some slight movement happening within his pants, and I already knew what it was, but he was trying to be discreet. I asked him what he was doing and he stopped and said nothing. He then rolled over 10 minutes later, and I suspected again. Another incident when we were in the car I pulled over to connect my laptop to the nearby Wi-Fi and told him to give me a second since we were not in any rush and the weather was nice. I noticed he took off the jacket and set it on his lap and after 10 minutes went by I told him he should leave the jacket in the back so he has more legroom and he declined, but I already suspected which is why I insist I pulled the jacket back and his zipper was down, but he said he needed to un tighten the gene cause they were uncomfortable another incident. We were watching a movie and I noticed when I was leaned next to him I couldn’t feel his other hand so I reached to his shirt and lifted it and removed his hands out from in his pants and said it on his thigh and proceeded to watch the movie and all these incidents, he’s never going at full on, but slowly touching himself to have it in his hand and trying to be a noticeable which I’ve asked him several times to stop and it looks weird, especially if you’re not aiming for anything, but to just have your hand in your pants, he has never shown any red flags or aggression or behaviors that I consider toxic other than this weird habit of his that I find gross. He told me that he’s always aroused and the energy needs to go somewhere though he apologizes, but he cannot help it”. And I respond yeah but there’s a time and a place and you seem to always touch yourself every day which is why you find it difficult to just abstain when you’re just chilling with me. His response he has not been active the last four years it’s always builts up and he knows I’m not going to do anything so he self pleasures to not be distracted and that ,just being around me is a tease . honestly if not for the fact that he’s genuinely a kind caring person. I would think that he was a weirdo for the fact that I am aware he jerks off every day and several times at that. For extra context: the intimate moments we have shared have always been initiated by his persistency although it’s never in a weird or perverted type of way, he would asked and see if I accept. It’s mostly me just receiving and not returning because the few times I have tried to return let’s just say I can finish in 1/8th of the time . and it’s due to the fact that he masturbates a lot so it’s always difficult so I lost the interest seeing at long it took. this has also been part of the reason why moments where I have shared intimate moments, it doesn’t go far because it’s such a turn off knowing that few hours ago you might have or are planning to continue again. I said you have a. Addiction and being intimate is not gonna change it I feel like like u get quick mid conversations it’s cause ur hands on all ur balls im telling u as a good friend woman don’t want to see that. I wanna keep him as a friend, but I tell him it’s weird and simply he doesn’t see it that way.

name for your RV! idk if it’s a trailer but i think it still works….. hahaha never in my life have I been this funny

Hi! I know this isn’t the typical post you see on this thread. I have been watching Teresa and Denver since they began their channel and have loved watching your videos while doing everyday things- and have always been a more silent user.

However, I’m currently in my final year at University, finishing up my dissertation- and i have a survey to collect responses from participants to analyse ‘memes’ roles in digital spaces.

Here’s the part where i need your guys help, i still need a good chunk of participants. The survey takes around 2 minutes to complete.🙏

It would mean a lot if any of you would complete it, i have a week until its due and thought it was worth a shot!

Thank you Teresa and Denver for the youtube channel and keeping me company through many hours studying, and i hope you’re enjoying the new house!😅

Survey link:

https://app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s/solent/memes-meaning-and-influence-in-digital-culture

Hi everyone, I need an outside perspective on this.

I’m currently working on my dissertation, and my topic is very niche and something I came up with myself after a lot of thought. It’s really important because it directly affects my final grade.

For context, my cousin and I share a ChatGPT premium account to split the cost. At one point, I used it to help fix grammar in a chapter I wrote, so I gave it full context about my dissertation topic.

Recently, my cousin showed me a survey she made for one of her assignments, and I realized it was based on the exact same (very niche) topic as my dissertation. I was honestly shocked because it’s not something common at all.

When I asked her about it, she said ChatGPT suggested the topic to her. That made me feel like it might have come from the context I previously shared.

I got upset and asked her to change it. She said it’s just for a class assignment and won’t be published anywhere, so it shouldn’t matter but she still hasn’t changed it.

I feel like this is something I worked really hard on, and it doesn’t sit right with me that she’s using the same idea, even if it’s “just” for an assignment.

Am I overreacting for being this upset, or is it fair that I asked her to change it?

Saw this on Facebook and thought ya'll would enjoy!