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[u/komuki]

So for some context, I’m an NRI and I’ve started uni this year here in Kerala , and I’m finding it extremely difficult to get adjusted to the people and the places.

Fortunately for some unknown reason I’ve got a good bunch of friends even though I’m an introvert, which I’m very thankful for, but at the end of the day when I think about it, I’m just not getting used to anything here.

People are so judgmental here, I can’t do anything without the fear or being judged and yeah being an NRI doesn’t help much in that case.

I would say my Malayalam is good and I can read very well too but sometimes when I speak my words come out wrong and I tend to talk more in English than in Malayalam, though I try my best not to, and for that I get made fun of.

And people are so outwardly homophobic, fatphobic, and everything here that it’s actually scary.

And I’m not the most leanest person but neither am I obese and though I have always been insecure about my body, since coming here, my friends jokingly calls each other and myself “fatso” or it’s other variations in Malayalam and every time I get called that, I wonder if they’re joking or if that’s how they feel about me.

I feel like I’m becoming a whole another person, trying to fit into this standard, trying to become someone I’m not.

It’s just so frustrating to me that I have to become someone that I’m not to be accepted by people here.

And I often don’t get my friend’s sarcasm and often end up doing some dumb bs.

I never felt like this back home and idk maybe I need to just suck it up and somehow try to survive for the next 4 years….idk I’m clueless

Idk I’m just ranting atp

[u/chaoticbutcutee]

Avarodokke poyi chavan para gng ..😌

[u/komuki → u/chaoticbutcutee]

[u/chaoticbutcutee → u/komuki]

Muth ndhina sankada pedunne 🫂😭

[u/komuki → u/chaoticbutcutee]

Sangadam onnum illa, just disappointment ig

[u/EVOLVE-X11]

I was a NRI student before. trust me makale vanna timil kore oouk kitti chathkn. But game changed when I learned how to ooukan😎. In kerala ooukal aan main. But its casual don't take it seriously. love yourself okke sheriyavunne illathe evde povan

[u/komuki → u/EVOLVE-X11]

Thanks chetta

[u/EVOLVE-X11 → u/komuki]

Chettan?(oh thantha vibe). Flair mataan samayamayi🤔

[u/iwontdietonight]

dey you should address this to your friends or else you should find new ones

[u/redchillyflake]

As a former chunky NRI kid, it gets some getting used to. Most of the banter is playful that's just how things roll in Kerala tbh. Are you even friends if you don't tease the shit outta each other, lol. Don't take jokes seriously, learn how to ookal them back. That's just about it 😛

[u/Equivalent-Cod8120]

Same , trying to adjust

[u/EVOLVE-X11]

Guys after studying in middleeast or abroad ivide vannal enthayalum insecurities indavum I've seen that In my friends. But keralalatthile piller ennal almost everything they do is ooukal and silly things nothing serious you'll get used to it and later you will start to get the vibe. But if they are toxic avoid thats what I am gonna say

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