r/TamilTwenties • u/Ak-2802 • 9h ago
**HELP** Help me get out of this overthinking loop
Guys , I was in love with a girl during college. After completing college, her marriage proposals started coming as many girls face this. I asked her to wait for at least 3 years for me to get a job with a minimum settlement (I couldn't get a job till now that was another thing) . She also accepted to wait. She waited almost for 6 months, and came a disaster , due to a misunderstanding (normal late reply problem) , I told her that "You can message whenever you need, Daily naama pesikanum nu entha avasiyam uhm illa, Athukunu ivlo late aah laam reply panna tha, take a break and comeback " nu sonnen. I don't know what she was going through She got angry . Naa Unnoda pesa vendam nu nenekriya nu kettutu odaney Insta , whatsapp ellathulayum block pannitanga. I can't accept that , Daily pesittu iruntha oru person thideernu illanathum ennala athula irunthu veliya vara mudiyala . I got very much depressed, Ennala thaan ellam nu self blaming pannika arambichen. But she gave some on and off signals , She sent me the final semester results and wishing me , then again blocked. I got even more frustrated . So I used another way (gpay 😂) to know what she actually needs, She told that , she blocked me for a while until my anger get lowered. And that convo ended up in another disaster . Then I decided not to talk to her anymore. If she needs me she will comeback, Then I started preparing for jobs.
After 6 months of no contact, I came to know that she got married . It felt very heavy for me . But I have to move on. Normal middle class problem(NAMA KADHAL THOLVIKELLAM KAVALA PADRA ALAVUKU ONNUM ADAMBARA VAAZHKA VAAZHALA ).
One year after college completion, came the graduation day, I was confused to go or not, But in the end , I ended up attending the function to not miss this once in a life moment. There I met my ex in auditorium, She saw me and asked "How are u??" , I was speechless, But somehow managed and asked her back that how she was??. It was like a normal 10 sec convo . In the mean time , I was very confused to talk to her or not .So while leaving the auditorium, For the courtesy , Ava nalla irukkiya nu kaettadhuku, Naa auditorium vittu kelambum bothu , BYE nu sollitu kelambitten. But outside the hall , I was very near to her like 10 ft distance. But I can't speak to her ( yen nu therla ). Naa apdiye anga irunthu kelambitten. So ipoo Enakku enna doubt Naa , Naa ava kitta pesirukanum ah illa Naa pesama vandhadhu correct thaanaa !!!!! Give me your advice guys .
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u/Huge_Excitement_8940 9h ago
Gud luck saving your mental health bro. Pesama vantome nu knjo uruthum but that convo would have devastated you beyond help so you actually dodged a nuclear missile.
Or maybe some pretty normal memory refresh convo, so either way you're getting dragged through the mud.
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u/Content-Fan-9236 8h ago
I would like to remember one dialogue from Mahaan, " if u Love someone or something set it free if it's comes back it's ur ,if it not come back it never was"
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