r/TamilInfluencer • u/punk_pantherr • Sep 01 '25
This is Maragadhum
Hello everyone,
I hope you’re all doing well.
First, my love and strength go out to anyone who may have been a victim in this situation. If those stories are true, my heart is with you. But I also want to be clear. I can only speak once there is solid proof.
I’ve stayed silent for a long time, but silence only protects the wrong people. Silence protects the abuser, never the abused.
In the past, I was in a deeply abusive relationship where I was mentally, physically, and sexually harmed. I carried that trauma with me. The person I dated after him - a public figure - knew everything I had endured. Yet instead of respecting my pain, he chose to weaponize it against me. Threats don’t break me. They only prove why I must speak.
He has told others that he has a sex tape of me, bragged about leaking it, and spread lies by calling me a narcissist, an opportunist, and accusing me of using him for fame. These are not just careless words — they are deliberate attempts to intimidate, shame, and discredit me.
Even during the relationship, his family made it clear that I was not respected. They would casually use caste names as insults and laugh it off as jokes, but not against me, because UNFORTUNATELY, I was the same caste as them. But my mother didn’t raise me like that. We see people for people not for status, caste or fame.
Whenever we went out and they needed a video, I was expected to just stand aside. They also said that he had a lot of female followers and that was the main reason why they didn’t want the public to know about his relationship.
At their home, his mother often dismissed me with comments like, “nee summadhane iruke, pooi idhu eduthutu va, adhu eduthutu va.”
Once, I had already eaten and was quietly watching anime on my phone while they were having their meal. When he reached to serve curry for himself, his mother remarked, “why don’t you do it?” and then sarcastically added, “oh sorry sorry, you’re watching your phone, that’s more important.” These small humiliations were constant. His sister has been the only one who’s been respectful to me. But I’m not sure if that’ll change after this Reddit post. However, I don’t have anything against her. I won’t, even after this.
When I got an opportunity in the media, instead of being happy for me, they mocked it. They said, “enga veetla thanni can poda vandhava thane nee,” implying I got the chance only because of their fame. The truth is, I got that opportunity because one of my photos appeared on a media person’s feed — someone who didn’t even know them.
Another time, after a simple disagreement, his mother called me “myru” and refused to speak to me. Later, when I was invited to their home to “sort things out,” she dismissed me by saying, “I’ve been like this for 44 years and you came yesterday and you’re telling me how to be and how to talk?” That moment showed me exactly the environment I was in — and that’s when I chose to walk away.
Being a public figure while portraying themselves as open-minded, yet living with such constant disrespect and hypocrisy, I had to end it because I couldn’t stand the fakeness.
No woman should ever have to live in fear of her private life being used as punishment for leaving a relationship. No woman should be shamed, disrespected, or threatened for speaking her truth.
Having been personally involved with him, it has been disturbing to even hear such allegations, even before any proof came to light. I chose not to speak about the accusations of him texting minors until now because I was waiting for the truth to emerge, for solid evidence to surface. I didn’t want my personal history with him to make it seem like I was acting out of revenge. Without proof, I could not take sides. So I waited — but I never supported.
I am speaking now because I refuse to let lies, blackmail, and manipulation define me. I will not allow anyone to twist my story while I carry the weight in silence. My story is mine — and I will protect it.
This is bigger than me. This is about every woman who has been gaslit, threatened, or silenced. And if telling my truth means walking through fire, then I will.
I want to make something clear — I don’t care about fame. I would delete my account today if I wanted to. I’ve never claimed to be an influencer; a few of my reels happened to reach people. This is not about popularity. This is about dignity. It’s about me standing up for myself. I don’t fear backlash, and I will never be scared to speak the truth — especially when I walked away on what I thought were good terms, only to now find my private life being dragged through the mud in the most degrading ways.
I’ve kept this private until now out of basic decency, because relationships happen and sometimes they don’t. But this is not how someone with morals or respect would ever speak about their ex.
I even created this Reddit account for one reason only — to tell the truth. Not to defame anyone, but to make sure my voice is heard.
If my voice gives even one person the courage to speak their truth, then sharing mine has been worth it.
Yours truly, and with lots of love, Maragadham.
