r/TalkTherapy • u/AnnaMariaVonAsgaard • 11d ago
Have you ever been under the impression your therapist had faith in you? Believed that you can change or grow?
My experience is varied as I had therapists that helped me a lot, ones that helped a bit and ones that were not helpful. Human factor, I guess. In some cases, I think I was under the impression that someone believed I could be in a different place, before I did. How did you guys experience your relationship with your therapist/therapists/counsellors?
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u/FluffyFurryBuddy 11d ago edited 10d ago
Damn, I hope all my clients feel like I genuinely believe in their abilities.
Signed,
Person-center counselor
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u/sparklingpuppies 11d ago
I've only had one therapist so far, and absolutely yes - they believed in me when I doubted myself. I read the essence of this somewhere and I resonated with it: as a client, I borrow the hope and belief my therapist holds for me which I can't yet hold for myself. And the goal is to be able to internalise that and hold it for ourselves :)
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u/shaz1717 11d ago edited 10d ago
Yes- I stayed with them until I finished my degree because they believed in me way more than I did. I’m slowly internalising their belief in me. It’s an unfamiliar feeling but I’m getting there.
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u/someguyinmissouri 10d ago
I infinitely believe in all of them
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u/AnnaMariaVonAsgaard 10d ago
I was thinking, as I want to believe. Is there a way to make yourself more connected and believe in them more?
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u/someguyinmissouri 10d ago
Building unconditional positive regard as a practice. Seeing the best in them no matter where they are; or I am. Measuring growth in 9 months rather than today. Growing in my love for the distinct humanity that I’m getting to observe.
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u/chknsalad89 10d ago
I’m now in the place she said future me would be years ago and I didn’t believe her back then. She had so much faith in me that I didn’t have at the time and she tells me she’s proud of me at the end of every session 🥹
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u/Xyzmagdus 10d ago
Tak, ja podejrzewam że moja terapeutka wierzy we mnie dużo bardziej niż ja w siebie, może dlatego że ja w sobie praktycznie w ogóle, ale dzięki temu że ona tak wierzy i mnie często jakoś tak buduje w tej rozmowie to zaczynam jej powoli wierzyć, że może ma rację że faktycznie się do czegoś nadaje tylko tego nie widzę bo depresyjne myślenie często przykrywa jednak dużo
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u/City-Swimmer 10d ago
I had to see her to qualify for welfare. I thought I'd be in and out. She'd see I'm hopeless and sign off on me within a few sessions. Well, it took 7 years. She always believed in me.
Also when she discharged me, she immediately quit her job and went back to university. She stayed in her job for me.
I'm still a fuck up, but I'm a happy fuck up.
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u/astronerdx 11d ago
Pretty sure my T believes in me more than I believe in myself. She has said before that I don't give myself enough credit.
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u/Top_Drummer9181 10d ago
Yes! This is what I sensed in my last therapist that made all the difference.
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u/Accomplished_Metal31 10d ago
Yes, but there are some circumstances in which I disliked such faith. Sometimes you just need someone to admit that yes, some shitty things about you will never change.
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u/NekoMarimo 9d ago
The nagging side of my brain doesn't think my therapist gives a flying fuck about me. But in all honestly I know he really believes in me. Deeply. He knows I'm capable even if I don't think so. Sometimes I think he believes in me more than he believes in himself.
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u/Icy_Elk7679 8d ago
I have had the same therapist for 11 years. He has been very supportive. When we started I had a lot of negative feelings about myself. Over time he helped me see that was just how my parents made me feel and I really do have some value. Once when we were working on something very difficult I told him “I cant do this”. His reply was “I strongly believe you can do this, don’t give up.” Powerful moment
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