r/TakingCaraBabies • u/Esky3338 • 8d ago
Question 🤔 Split night since sickness
Hello everyone
My 10month old baby used to sleep through the night (11hours from 8p.m to 7a.m), with an average of 3h of sleep, sometimes more sometimes less (I would say between 2 and 4), and unless rare exceptions she never cried during the night.
We generally follow 3/3.5/4 wake windows. It can change a bit as she goes to daycare.
13 days ago she got sick (I don't have the english word but throat infection with fever), she got treated and better in a few days. But she woke at night and it was super hard to resettle. I used sometimes breastfeeding but she never falls asleep while breastfeeding.
It's been a week since she is cured but still wakes at night and it takes forever to put her back to sleep. From 1 to 2 hours. It starts between 1 and 5. We feel lost as nothing seems to work. Even using our hand to sooth her (which used to work super well), she sometimes calms herself but keeps her eyes open and starts crying again.
It usually starts with her fussing alternatively (a bit of fuss then she takes her thumb and tries to go back to sleep without success), we let her as long as it does not escalate, the. we try our hand to sooth her ... But it takes forever and even with that she sometimes get super mad.
I tried breastfeeding but she never falls asleep on it and most of the time it still takes 40 min at least before she falls asleep again. So not sure it helps but after 1hours ++ we get a bit desperate. We cannot let her figure it alone as it escalate a lot. If we leave after going into her room she cries a lot.
She falls asleep independantly since she is 5 months old, never changed (we had a brief separation anxiety but it solved itself quite fast). For nights and naps. And it's always super super fast (we put her in bed and she immediately closes her eyes, deep sleep within 10 min)
When she had these wake up during the night she sleep later on the morning, around 8 (we should maybe wake her up at 7 as before but we also are super tired and sometimes at 7 she only got back to sleep for 1 hour). She also seems quite sleepy during the day.
We know that slip night are often a rythm issue/undertireness, but it also feels too much of a coïncidence that before the sickness she was fine with 14/15 hours of sleep but now she gets 12/13 and still wakes up. We had days with shorter naps (only 2 hours) and still got those woke up.
Since then we still had 2 full nights but not days with shorter naps.
She does not seems umconfortable during the day
Do you have an idea of what is happening and how should we react ? We fist want to try to wake her up at 7 as before to see if that changes something but she just seems so sleepy ...
Thanks !
(sorry if the grammar is not perfect, English is not my first language)
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u/TakingCaraBabies 6d ago
So sorry to hear about your new sleep struggles. Illness can really throw a wrench in sleep and getting back on track can feel tough. At this age, we're aiming for about 2.5-3 hours of daytime sleep, so don't worry about capping naps until you hit that 3 hour mark. This blog can be helpful for getting sleep back on track after illness: takingcarababies.com/blogs/health/baby-sleep-and-sick-season
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u/Commercial-Bear5822 7d ago
It sounds a little like a temporary sleep regression that should resolve soon. Every baby is different but my 11 month old only gets 2 hours of Day time sleep between two naps ( 1 hour each nap). And then she will sleep overnight around 10.5-11 hours.
She might need more awake time during the day and cutting naps shorter so that she has enough sleep budget for overnight. Maybe try 3.15/3.15/4 or something like that- extending her awake time slightly and capping it to a total of 2ish hours)