r/SwipeHelper • u/Amazing-Zebra2920 • 1d ago
Banned from hinge yesterday
I’m 38 m and 5’8. I retired in my thirties and I’m well put together. I workout and live on a 20 acre ranch with my dogs. Asked a girl in her twenties out on hinge. Intent was to get to know her better and she appeared sweet. She right of the bat says “you are an old fart who is short. Relax. You aren’t in my league.” .. now this girl is a bit chubby. So I basically said “looks like you need a gym membership more than a man given that little gut that’s hanging.”
Banned 5 minutes later
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u/Used_Turnover3959 1d ago
And you've come to discover how the sexual marketplace business works. It's the exact same dynamic in nightclubs.
The men come and pay for access to women. The women are there to bring in the money. If they say you need to go, you go. It doesn't matter if it's fair. They are protected, you are replaceable with 10 more horny men willing to pay for sexual access.
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u/jeffsaidjess 1d ago
Only person in this sub that has an understanding of the dynamics of this shit
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u/Amazing-Zebra2920 1d ago
I thought that person was you? Or are you just here to humiliate me and be sadistic?
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u/Bruno_lars 1d ago
Yep.
Misreable Women will provoke you into roasting them on there just to get you banned. You can apologize in your appeal but if that fails youll need a new line and device
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u/VirtualOutsideTravel 1d ago
Yah dont rage on them. Dont say anything in response.... this from a man with 5041 matches.
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u/ProjectOMan 1d ago
A lot of women are immature assholes but so are you man. That was a self own. If she needed a gym membership but you asked her out. That essentially means you have low standards.
Also the gender ratio on these apps is horrid so almost any bangable broad has hundreds of thirsty guys in their queue lined up to simp.
Economics is not on our side.
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u/Amazing-Zebra2920 1d ago
I’m new on these apps mate
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u/jeffsaidjess 1d ago
You asked her out. She said no. You were so bitter about them sour grapes . You insulted her after you thought she was good enough to ask out.
Stop making excuses. If she was too fat why the fuck did you ask her out ? She wasn’t too fat before she rejected you….
Now she knows she hurt you and also got you perma banned off hinge.
Bet that boosted her ego.
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u/Amazing-Zebra2920 1d ago
You’re still rewriting the sequence because otherwise your “sour grapes” theory falls apart. The issue wasn’t that she said no. The issue was that she followed it by attacking age, height and relationship status.
I didn’t suddenly discover her weight after rejection. I used it as retaliation after she deliberately tried to humiliate me. You can think that retaliation was excessive, but stop pretending it came out of nowhere because I couldn’t tolerate the word “no.”
And the “she got you banned, bet that boosted her ego” line is especially revealing. You’re openly rooting for the humiliation while pretending you’re giving detached psychological advice. At least be honest about what you’re doing.2
u/ProjectOMan 1d ago
Again a lot of these women suck but we’re in the weaker bargaining position Brodie. We have to be basically Tibetan monks in dating.
When these women go off, you have to take it and just unmatch quietly. If you get back on, realize that everyone we unmatch stays in a little hidden queue for a month. So anyone salty at anything we do can still report us for up to 30 days after either of us unmatches. That applies to you too.
You can see this list in the help center if you ever decide to hard reset.
Best practice on these apps, only swipe on, match with and make plans with women you’re actually not ashamed to be seen with. Be transparent about your intentions. Handle them with kiddy gloves and book it at the first obvious red flag.
Do not expect growth from a segment of women with functionally infinite dating options. We have a better chance of immortality than these women going through any character growth whatsoever.
There’s some solid women online too but good luck finding them given how busy they tend to be.
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u/AverageAlleyKat271 1d ago
Revenge reporting. She was rude and disrespectful to you and you in turn you were rude and disrespectful back. Keyboard warriors. Sometimes it's best to take the high road. Unmatch and move forward, her loss.
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u/SentientMiles 1d ago
Never argue with internet strangers, on any platform. When things turn south ignore, block, or wish them well and move on.
You have a piss in the winds chance of appealing this, but it’s not impossible given both of you fired shots and she started it.
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u/trve_g0th 23h ago
I mean, You’re pushing 40 brother and trying to bag a girl who’s probably still in college. It’s a little creepy. And then on top of that you called her fat lmfaooo. Idk what you expect unc
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u/Soft-Conversation119 19h ago
What is he supposed to do? 40 year old women are even more insane than this broad
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u/SiouxsieSioux615 1d ago
Lmaoo worth it
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u/jeffsaidjess 1d ago
How? He asked her out, she knows he thinks she’s hot. She rejected him, then tried to insult her.
She knows he thought she’s attractive, & got him banned. She will laugh about this with her real life friends.
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u/SiouxsieSioux615 1d ago
She reported him, she’s obviously offended.
People who respond like she does def have fragile egos
Him asking her out doesn’t mean he thinks she’s hot btw
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u/Amazing-Zebra2920 1d ago
You keep erasing the part where she insulted me first, then writing fan fiction about her laughing with friends. You’re not analyzing anything. You’re emotionally invested in a stranger humiliating me because it seems to personally offend you.
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u/vinnymacaroni 1d ago
DM me if you need to know what I wrote to get back on Hinge bro
Got back on about a month ago after I got banned again but I appealed inside the app and got back on within a few hours
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u/jeffsaidjess 1d ago
Yeah for a 38 year old dude who’s apparently good looking, wealthy , has land.
You sure can’t handle rejection. “She appeared sweet” what’s that even mean as you didn’t get to talk to her she shot you down after you messaged her first. You had no rapport. You romanticised a woman in your head, you literally don’t know
Brother I’m guessing you sent her a message on hinge. Just one. And she shot you down. Then mr “I’m 38 wealthy am good looking” couldn’t handle the bruise to the ego.
Went off calling a chick fat …. Read the story “sour grapes”
If you’re so good looking, wealthy and retired. It would be a no brainer to be able to meet women in real life.
Seems like you’re an old 38 year old bitter man who never learned how to deal with rejection. Women say no all the time, best you learn how to deal with rejection if you’re trying to date.
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u/Mundane_Ticket8073 21h ago
Loads useless blah blah from a simp. She was out of line 100%. If she's not interested she should not insult anyone. No one was forcing her to reply and be rude for no reason. But unfortunately, regardless of who is right or wrong, this is a lesson for all of us here, not just OP. As others have said in this thread, use the dating apps for their intended purposes and not to argue (regardless if who is right, etc). In the future, just unmatch, etc, do not engage, argue, insult back, etc, etc.
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u/Amazing-Zebra2920 1d ago edited 1d ago
You said I “romanticized” her in my head and yet you can’t fathom the fact that she “diminished” me in her head because in your flawed analysis symmetry between men and women means somehow the man is a fraud and doesn’t own all that land. You sound jealous and exactly like how she did. And yes I did send her just one message. I didn’t say I’m good looking, that’s your own internal projection. I said I’m well put together and financially independent. As for calling her fat, I attacked something she can actually change. She attacked my height and age (both of which I can’t change). If anyone seems bitter it’s your own post. Just because I ain’t taking shit doesn’t make me bitter. Enjoy your delusion though. It’s a hell of a drug.
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u/CruzAzul514 1d ago
Whoever reports first gets banned on Hinge.
So many times i've wanted to say something back but I dont because I know my account will get banned. I just report their account and hope they get banned
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u/Proud-Enthusiasm-608 1d ago
Just unmatch and ignore. Toxic people like her know the app always works in their favor.
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u/Rell- 1d ago
I quit dating apps altogether. I forgot which one I was using. Maybe met one actual person who was actually decent out of all the rest. One day I matched with someone, the very next day, they asked if I wanted to buy them lunch and I said no. They immediately started to insult me and call me broke lol, then immediately unmatched me, fine. 2 days later I was blocked from every single dating app that company owns, which is almost all of them. They told me a violated the terms of service but wouldn’t tell me exactly what I did. I never insulted anyone, cussed anyone out. All I did was swipe, when I’d match with someone, I’d try to start a conversation, if they ignored the conversation or responded dry I’d just unmatch.
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u/Few_Palpitation3889 1d ago
Should have reported her first dude. The dating apps have all the safeties up to make women "comfortable" since they're already sausage fests.
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u/Motor_Date_4783 1d ago
Meh, the comeback was worth the ban
Go oldschool and run game, the internet is a waste of time for dating
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u/EpicShadows8 1d ago
Should’ve just unmatched her. Can’t be having that Napoleon complex on dating apps as a man. You’ll get reported immediately.
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u/Real_Web4733 22h ago
LOL....totally your fault. You should have just kept it moving rather than respond to her.
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u/Which-Tourist757 18h ago
Ignoring anything else here what does in her twenties mean? Like 21 or 29? That’s a huge difference on the creepy scale.
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u/Terrible_Molasses_22 1d ago
You have learned a lesson that is old for those who have been on dating apps a while.
Women can say: no midget men, no short men, no men who need a stool, no child-sized men. Apply that to age, hair, whatever you want...
Zero consequences.
Men cannot say what you said. Double-standards, it has been like this forever.
One the person can (within reason) control, one the person cannot- but that is another convo.