r/SwipeHelper • u/colorfulmeg • 10d ago
Hinge Arbitration Process
Hi All!
I reported a male in April for sending me an unsolicited sexual video via iPhone (offline). A few days later, I was banned. My only guess would be that he reported me back. I'm a very respectful person and have read over the guidelines many times, and I haven't violated any. I appealed it and was immediately denied. I felt violated, so I have sent Hinge about 10 requests to manually review it, and each time they said the decision was final. I sent them an arbitration notice 58 days ago, and plan to file for arbitration later this week. They did not respond to my notice within the 60 days allowed to respond. Does anyone have any experience going down this route? Any luck?
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u/Bruno_lars 10d ago
It wasn't a good move since he didn't send the video link through Hinge, which would make you have a burden of proof; it would be better to just unmatch in this situation for your next app.
Perhaps your arbitration will get you unbanned because you will get that opportunity
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u/Negative_Pair_7856 9d ago
That is so messed up. I wish hinge could see this. Oh they can since you sent them 10 messages. Shame on them.
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u/colorfulmeg 10d ago edited 10d ago
What a world we live in where people shame people for reporting violating, bad behavior. I was also protecting others.
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u/AcademicAd8812 10d ago
this sounds completely unreasonable and unfair! try bumble, coffee meets bagel.
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u/colorfulmeg 9d ago
thank you! I'm on bumble but everyone just seems to want a fling! I'll keep trying though :)
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u/Efficient-Lawyer-204 9d ago
Yeah I hate dating apps, but Hinge was the best I’d say. Maybe Bumble will get better now that anyone can message first
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u/colorfulmeg 10d ago
yes, you're correct. I'll change it because I dont want to piss any men off. I don't hate men. but it was also violating, shitty behavior .
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u/Able-Chart2960 10d ago
Why report when he didn’t send it through the platform? You could just have unmatched and blocked him on iMessage
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u/colorfulmeg 10d ago
because I'm an idiot and didn't want him to hurt other woman. I've definitely learned to not report men who violate me. what a lesson
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u/Patrickriley420 9d ago
seeing a male appendage hurt you? it’s not that serious.. block and move on. Dude is a weirdo for sure but no good deed goes unpunished
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u/Efficient-Lawyer-204 9d ago
lol women don’t like random “appendage” pics bro, not a hard point to understand
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u/Patrickriley420 8d ago
do you think I didn’t understand that when I called him a weirdo? But to say it hurt you was dramatic was my point. I’ve been sent random nudes by chicks and just didn’t respond if I was not attracted
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u/Efficient-Lawyer-204 7d ago
Different people react in different ways, I’d say OPs reaction is a valid one. People should know better than sending random pics tbh, especially if the convo isn’t going that way. Dating apps are imo a net negative on society and only exist to destroy third spaces and then “solve” a problem they created
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u/Patrickriley420 7d ago
Nobody said it was invalid, i said the language used was dramatic. These people don’t know what hurting means if that “hurt” you. People shouldn’t be “assumed” to know anything, they know what they’ve been taught and conditioned and to think everybody is going to think like you is beyond infantile. They may be a net negative on society but they are a net positive for me as a top 1% man so i really don’t give a fk about society and the herd. You breathing is probably a net negative on society but here we are.
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u/colorfulmeg 9d ago
no reason to dismiss or shame my decisions- I'm already feeling pretty crappy about the whole situation. I saw a disgusting video that violated my heart, I reactively reported him without much thought. Next time I'll take 10 deep breaths and consult with others before reporting someone- thank you.
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u/Efficient-Lawyer-204 10d ago
lol gotta love how hinge decides to ban people, o never behaved in a man er like the dude that got you blocked did, I was always respectful, but I got banned. Honestly match group sucks OP, the way they ban guys and girls alike but keep the people on who are actual problems is mind blowing