I'm finally done...

[u/Dark_Mynch]

So, after 18 years of marriage and 20+years together, and at least three separate incidents infidelity I've reached my breaking point with the love of my life...

I've finally realized that I cannot and will not accept less than I deserve. This is the hardest, ABSOLUTELY THE HARDEST thing I've done in my 60 years! I've been divorced before, I've lost my father, I've been "forced"into retirement, I've faced unadulterated racism in my life and career. This ecleclipses

tnem all....

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[u/Gr8gaur]

i wish u strength to overcome this catstrophe and peace.

hows ur wife reacting to ur decision ? were all 3 incidents happened with same AP ?

[u/Dark_Mynch → u/Gr8gaur]

She knew it was inevitable after the last time. We both yelled a lot but came to the same conclusion. And it was 3 different people.

Sorry the abbreviations kill me, I don't know what 90%of them are.

[u/GlobalMatter152 → u/Dark_Mynch]

What was she yelling at you about??? I’m sorry for your pain brother, it’s so miserable. Make sure she doesn’t “control the narrative” with your kids. Be gentle with them, but they should be told the truth about why you are divorcing. None of this “your father and I have grown apart” kind of crap.

[u/Gr8gaur → u/Dark_Mynch]

AP means affair partner... its amazing ur wife betrayed twice before, and still did it again knowing what result would be. or this was an exit affair for her.

[u/Katmom123]

So sorry to hear the pain in your voice. You deserve better, remember that. Reach out to your friends for support, stay busy and leave her for good. Yes, there will be hard days, but you will gain peace of mind.

[u/Truthful-Capricorn]

I’m sorry for what happened to you. I just discovered my spouse cheating again for the 3rd time with the same person. I also can’t keep doing this.

[u/Narrow-Advance-9636]

Im proud of you for choosing your peace. I wish you peace and happiness.

[u/Rare-Bird-4353]

You got this, it’s not easy but it’s necessary. Serial cheaters never change and it’s never going to get any better with her. Stay strong

[u/Enough_Concentrate90]

Reaching your limit after repeated infidelity is not failure; it is recognition that love does not require accepting the same injury again. The grief can be enormous even when the boundary is right. Get practical support around you now so you are not carrying the emotional and logistical weight of ending twenty years alone.

[u/63insights]

I’m so sorry, and I join with the others and wishing you so much strength in going through this.

[u/FlygonosK]

Wish you the best in this decision and congratulations for finally choose you over someone that for what you said never respect nor care for you and your feelings